Dallas Bragg explains why people stuck in chemsex addiction stay stuck: they say they want to quit but keep Grindr, dealer contacts, and user friends. It's like pressing gas and brake at once. He says be honest about what you actually want, not what you think you should want.
You're stagnant in your recovery because you're out of alignment. When I say out of alignment, I mean you say one thing but you do another. You say, I want to quit chemsex, but you leave Grindr on your phone. You say, I'm ready to stop, but you still talk to your user buddies. You keep your dealers in your phone. You're still doing All the things that say I want to use, but your words say something different. What this is, is you're sending out two competing, conflicting messages. It's like pushing the gas and the brake at the same time. That will keep you stagnant. That will keep you in a cycle. That is why you keep using. You're looking for answers and you keep asking. I don't— and you say, I don't know how to do this. Yet your behaviors say otherwise. So let's get real with where you are. Maybe you're not ready to quit. Then say that. I'm not completely ready to quit. Maybe you're ready to do less. Maybe you're ready to, to make small changes in that direction. But stop saying you're ready to quit when you're not.
