Someone in recovery talks about choosing sober sex even when it's awkward or disappointing. They acknowledge the temptation to use substances to ease intimacy, but commit to experiencing sex while sober or mostly sober, accepting that it won't always feel good.
And now that I know that the option always exists to go out and get high and have sex with everything that moves, because I know that that's always on the periphery, always an option, always part of my reality now. Now sex means having a willed commitment to exploring it sober or mostly sober and accepting the fact that some experiences will suck. You know, like that, you know, there will be lackluster sex. There will be sex in which I don't perform well. There will be sex in which we don't connect. And that does make it daunting, and there's no way around that being daunting.
