Gay men often use apps like Grindr and Sniffies paired with poppers or meth for quick sex, but the speaker argues this skips the buildup that makes desire deeper. Conversation and anticipation create more satisfying, emotionally resonant encounters than instant gratification.
I mean, it's, I think in the gay community we're so used to just like instant gratification with sex for sure, you know, it's like we can get on Grindr, Sniffies, this, that, or the other and find some sort of sex pretty quickly, you know. Yeah. But again, I, then you have to use these other tools to get you to that eroticism because again, it's like, okay, we gotta have poppers or, you know, meth or this or that or the other to like really, you know, have that scene when in fact you maybe could just talk to them for a bit and build up some longing, you know, like this idea that like, what could it be like where you get a taste of something, but you're not, you're not jumping to sex right away. And when you finally do get to the sex, trust me, you're going to be in that erotic mind, but you're going to be there. It's going to be, it's going to feel really, you know, like what you've been waiting for, kind of anticipating, as opposed to if you kind of jump right into it.
