Shame gets passed down through families from ancestors who faced different historical and cultural pressures. Understanding where your family's shame came from, and why it once mattered for survival, is the first step to breaking the cycle.
You know, when you think about the shame that, that carries throughout family history, it just gets passed, passed down generationally. It's not even your shame anymore. It was your great-grandfather's shame, and he passed it down, and he passed it down. And sometimes people, when they start working on their shame, and we look at where did this originate, we also find ourselves talking about how did your parents come to have that belief? Yeah. What did their grandparents teach them? Where in the world did they grow up? What was happening at that unique time in history that caused this to, to become a belief that your parent had, or a behavior that they engaged in, or they expected, they required, which might've been very adaptive at their unique time in life, in history, in the context of where they lived, but it's not applicable now for you as an individual in present day.
