Dallas Bragg walks through if-then safety plans for sex when chemsex is a risk: honest self-assessment first, then specific agreements with partners about what to do if cravings hit, and after-care contacts for shame or dopamine crashes afterward.
So let's talk about the if-then. So as a preparation for this, you wanna develop an if-then plan and you wanna share that with your fuck buddy. And you'll hesitate on your then if he doesn't know what's coming. If he's not aware of your if-then, you'll hesitate or it may go completely wrong. You must communicate this. This is time to be completely honest with yourself. Are you thinking about chemsex more this week? Are you romanticizing the old sex? Is euphoric recall creeping in? Have you found yourself searching for meth-related porn on X? Do you have to think about chemsex-related images to even come? Observe it. Don't be scared by it. Just create a safety net by developing this if-then. So before you go into the sexual situation, if I've been craving, romanticizing, searching in the, in the 24 hours before we meet, then I cancel or postpone. There's no guilt in that. And there's also no explanation needed or required by you. He just needs to know if-then. If he shows up high, if he mentions party, brings anything with him, then over that day and for good, right? Okay. So during the sexual experience, If I begin to think about meth during sex, then I stop and I use my exit. Talk about that in a second. If I find I have to think about meth to get hard or to come, then I stop. And here is my aftercare plan. If I go numb, check out, or start performing instead of feeling, then I stop. Okay. After. If the craving shows up later, then here is who I call. Here's my set rules. If shame or the crash shows up, the dopamine dive, then here is who I call.
