Dallas Bragg describes resentment as a shield against deeper emotional work. When someone hurts him, he builds anger to avoid asking why the situation triggers past trauma or what he really feels underneath. He suggests replacing resentment with questions like "Why does this bother me?" to process emotions and move toward understanding.
I want to talk about resentment and what I've learned about myself. I've learned that I have a lot of resentment, and, um, but what's important is that I've learned why. And resentment for me is a protective mechanism to distance myself from the actual emotion and the actual healing that I need to make. So for instance, someone hurts my feelings I resent them. Someone ghosts me or says something rude or whatever. I build up this huge amount of anger and resentment. But what that is, is protecting me from what I really need to do, which is dig in and ask myself some empowering questions. Why is this bothering me? What about this situation triggers trauma in me? What about this situation is making me angry and resentful, and how can I love this person? How can I
