Early sobriety brings pressure to have sex right away, a trap the speaker calls "sexpectations." Many people ignore their body's actual signals because they feel their body needs to perform. Learning to trust your arousal and what you actually want becomes part of recovery, especially when drugs like meth have scrambled those signals.
And like your body is just trying to come back to homeostasis and really trying to metabolize being in a sober physical being takes some time. You know, I, I have found that a lot of people experience pressure in the community to have sex too soon, or, you know, whether that's internal pressure, or I call them sexpectations of how I'm supposed to be, or that, you know, my body is this sexual capital, thus I must perform in a certain way. And so I see people kind of succumb to that kind of pressure without acknowledging that all of those symptoms, right, those are trustworthy. Like learning how to trust your body, learning how to trust arousal, learning how to trust the essence of who you are really is a big piece in the recovery process. And are you pushing? Or is it actually time because there's drugs and then there's desire and a lot of time meth is a tricky bitch.
