Don't announce your sobriety milestones to people who've lost trust in you. Show them instead through consistent behavior over time. When others see the real change, they'll ask about it themselves, and that matters more than telling them you hit 30 or 90 days.
All right, listen, sometimes your friends and family aren't going to be as excited about your sobriety milestones as you are. In most cases, you've lost their trust, you've lost their respect, and you've put them through hell. And to top it all off, a lot of them do not understand the nature of addiction. I know you're really proud of yourself, and it took a lot to be, what, 30 days, 60 days, 90 days sober? And when you share that, you may expect a certain response, but Expectations are going to get you in trouble every time in any aspect of life. My advice is to just show them through actions, through time of just living in a recovery state of being. They're eventually going to start asking you, hey, are you sober? How long have you been sober? They're going to notice the difference in you, and that's going to mean so much more than you just giving them a report on a milestone. Recovery is about detachment from your emotional state being dependent on anything outside of yourself, especially other people's actions.
