Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

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3 Aug 2026 · 2 min

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In this short coaching video, Dallas Bragg, a recovery coach for gay men, outlines the most common reasons men give for being unable to quit chemsex: easy drug availability in densely populated areas, a family history of addiction and lack of support, and the belief that sex is impossible without drugs. He argues that merely listing examples of others who have succeeded is insufficient. Instead, he proposes a mindset shift: moving from a victim perspective—asking "how could I ever stop because of..."—to a victor perspective—asking "how can I stop because of...". This reframing opens curiosity and possibility, allowing individuals to seek solutions rather than close themselves off. Dallas encourages viewers to adopt this victor stance and to share the message with anyone who might benefit.

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Here are the top reasons I hear from men on why they can't quit chemsex. Hi, my name is Dallas. I'm a recovery coach for gay men who want to break free from the addictive patterns of chemsex and live their best and highest life. Top reasons I hear when I talk to you in the DMs and on my Zoom calls is, one, I'm in a very highly populated area where drugs are so available I could go down to the street corner, or I come from a long line of addicts and my family does not support me. And number one is, I can't have sex without it. Now, I could give you a long list of people who have the same circumstances in their life and are able to break free, but I don't think that's going to help. Here's what really helped. I want you to change the connotation of the question you're asking. And here's what I mean. A lot of you will say, how could I ever stop when blank? All the reasons that I just said, or whatever your reason or excuse is for not stopping. How could I ever stop because of this? That comes from a place of victimhood. Those who are most successful in stopping change from victim to victor. And when you take the victor standpoint, you ask the same question, how can I stop because of this? But from a place of curiosity, from a place of openness. From a place of desiring a true answer and solution to the problem. When you ask, how could I ever stop because of, from a victim standpoint, you close your mind off to any possibilities, any answers. You aren't even asking a question. You're making a statement. I can't stop because of. That closes down the possibility of you ever stopping. I want you to share this with somebody who might benefit from it.