Dallas Bragg tells men in recovery that saying "that's just who I am" is avoidance dressed up as acceptance. Trauma shaped you, he says, but it doesn't control what comes next. Real change requires doing the hard work, not skipping it with excuses.
When are you going to stop saying, that's just who I am, in the name of radical acceptance? Do you know the difference between radical acceptance and avoidance? Many men in recovery don't want to do the hard work, which, guess what? The hard work is what comes after quitting crystal meth. And they use phrases like, I'm just not a journal person, or I can't meditate, to use as an excuse. This is not radical acceptance. is bypassing the work needed for lasting recovery. True radical acceptance means acknowledging where you are and recognizing your power to change. Your trauma shaped you, but it doesn't define your future.
