Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

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12 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker reflects on how discussions of sexual ethics have become overly simplified, focusing primarily on consent in the wake of the MeToo movement. While acknowledging the necessity of consent conversations, the speaker argues that they represent only the beginning of a deeper dialogue. The talk shifts to the normless environment of gay sex culture, especially within anonymous dating apps like Grindr, where traditional codes of politeness and social etiquette often disappear. This anonymity can lead to uncomfortable and disheartening interactions, undermining potential intimacy. The speaker proposes exploring a broader spectrum of sexual ethics that includes viewing sex as a meaningful, spiritual, and caring expression of love, rather than merely a transactional or purely physical act. The overall aim is to expand the conversation beyond consent to incorporate deeper ethical considerations, emotional connection, and the impact of cultural stigma on gay sexual interactions.

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I would pace around my bedroom thinking so deeply about how oversimplified a lot of our conversations around sexual ethics are, right? I think consent was sort of the beginning and end of the conversation in a lot of ways after the MeToo movement. And of course that conversation had to be had, right? Uh, there was a lot of really abhorrent behavior going on, um, kind of in plain sight that people really didn't want to take a good look at. But beyond consent, I think what most people who participate in this Retreat will probably agree with is that gay sex culture, it's kind of normless, right? The, the normal codes of politeness that exist, um, when you're having a conversation with someone at the grocery store or whatever, uh, they often don't exist in a space like Grindr, right? The anonymity brings about behavior both from ourselves and from the person we're talking to that is really uncomfortable, and we're really shocked by it and really disheartened by I think potential for intimacy there. And so what I wanna do is explore that spectrum of sexual ethics from, you know, sex as a very meaningful kind of spiritual, you know, physical expression of love and care.