Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

To the Family

8 Jan 2025 · 1 min

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In this advisory monologue, the speaker addresses the loved ones of crystal meth (often called "Tina") users, particularly gay men. He explains that many users turn to meth to numb deep-seated shame, which can stem from seemingly minor childhood remarks—illustrated by a father's comment about a client’s running that haunted him for years. The speaker argues that trying to rationalize the addiction is futile; instead, families should focus on offering unconditional acceptance and backing that acceptance with concrete supportive actions. This approach, he asserts, initiates the repair process for the addicted individual.

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To the loved ones of a crystal meth addict, you might be scratching your head at why he is using meth because he seemed to have a pretty good childhood or seemed to have been such a well-adjusted person. You are searching for answers to make it make sense for you. Most of the gay men I help are using Tina to subdue the shame they are feeling, and often that shame can be rooted in one seemingly minor comment or instance. For example, oh man, look how you are running, a comment a father said to one of my clients that stuck in his brain for decades and And caused him to reject parts of himself, caused him to live his life wondering how he looked or if people were making fun of him. He lived his life hating parts of himself. Trying to make sense of why he is using is a waste of your time. It happened. Now what? The most important thing you can do as a loved one is to reassure him that you accept all of him unconditionally and then back that up with actions. The repair will go from there.