Dallas Bragg explains why people resist quitting addictions or making changes: the nervous system prefers familiar misery over unknown freedom. Real transformation requires the old version of yourself to die, which protective inner parts fight against. Beyond that fear lies the life you're meant to live.
You're not resisting quitting because you're weak or you're broken or you don't want it bad enough or you're not good enough. You're resisting because transformation is terrifying, because your nervous system would rather keep you in familiar misery than risk unknown freedom. Because committing to recovery means the person you've been has to transform into the person you're meant to become. Becoming somebody new means that old version of you has to be released, has to die. And of course, that's scary. Of course, protective parts resist that. Here's what I know though, after the years I've spent guiding men through the process and guiding myself through this process, on the other side of that resistance is the life you're meant to live. The tree is already there casting its shadow. Your recovery is already waiting for you.
