Dallas Bragg, a chemsex recovery coach, explains why gay and bisexual men often avoid intimacy. True intimacy means exposing your wounded self and honestly sharing why you use drugs, not just surface-level contact. When men practice real vulnerability with friends or support networks, they satisfy the need that meth and transactional sex otherwise fill.
You like Tina because it lacks intimate connection. The transactional, raw, sweaty nature of the sex draws you back. And here's why intimacy seems scary or boring to you. It's because you don't understand what it really means. Hey, my name is Dallas. I'm a chemsex recovery coach helping gay and bi men break free from Tina misuse and live their best and highest life. Intimacy is often misunderstood by the men that I work with who want to stop misusing Tina or ice, etc. They think intimacy means some vanilla or touchy-feely physical contact. Intimacy is into me I see, or into me you see, meaning being intimate is exposing yourself, pulling down the walls you've built around your wounds and around your true inner self hidden beneath all the fake personas that you've created. It's being vulnerable about your use of drugs, but also admitting the deeper reasons you are using. Sometimes it's just being honest with friends and family. about the gritty, dark truth about what you do while high. Intimacy begins today by reaching out to somebody and asking for help, sharing your inner desire to use meth, how often you think about it, when cravings are at their highest. It's practicing intimacy this way will alleviate the need for transactional interactions with men sexually because you are meeting an inner need that Tina helps you avoid. Let me know what you think in the comments.
