Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

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6 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief conversational excerpt, the speakers explore why self‑sabotage often emerges when things are going well. They argue that the underlying cause is shame—a deep‑seated belief of being undeserving or fundamentally bad—that can operate as a background mental noise. This shame may surface as an inner voice that questions a promotion, a new relationship, or any positive experience, leading individuals to overcompensate or numb their joy, thereby sabotaging their own success.

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Where do you think they fall?
For a lot of people, when things start to go well, self-sabotage is kind of lurking in the back somewhere for a lot of people in the back of our minds usually. And so where does self-sabotage generally come from? It generally comes from shame, right? I don't deserve, I am universally bad, you know? And so when people are trying to compensate with shame, right? Because for a lot of people, shame isn't always a conscious experience. Sometimes shame is more of a background noise experience. It's, it's like the devil that whispers in your ear quietly. Yep. Kind of thing. And so it might be the case that you get a promotion or you fall in love with someone and, you know, there's a piece of you, maybe a large piece or maybe a smaller piece that's like, you don't deserve that, right? That, that shame voice is there. And so that might be the attempt to like overcompensate and numb your natural positive experience.