Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

What’s been your experience with chemsex recovery and triggers? Tell us about your experience in the

11 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker introduces the "90‑second rule," a technique for handling emotional triggers by naming, feeling, and staying with the trigger for 90 seconds until it dissipates. They emphasize that healing is not a linear destination but a recurring, spiral‑shaped process of remembering and integrating lessons, where mistakes are natural opportunities for growth. The speaker stresses the importance of reducing habitual reactive patterns and highlights that shame blocks healing, urging listeners to let go of shame to enable recovery.

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There is this rule called the 90-second rule that says that every single trigger that you experience will go away in 90 seconds if you really stay with it, right? So if you— there's something that's happening to you that's triggering you, you name it, you feel it, and you stay with it for 90 seconds. And after 90 seconds, it's gone. Yeah, yeah. Right? So there's different tools that Work for some people, other tools that work for other people. The idea is that after this process, you know, you've really come back to yourself. And again, healing is not a destination. Healing is a process. Healing is a remembering over and over and over and over again. At the end of the day, we're humans and we should remember that part of the human experience is making mistakes. And if you make a mistake, then there's gonna be a new lesson there. So the idea is to kind of like reduce the number of times you react in the way that you used to. I always say that healing is more of a spiral, right? Sometimes you're up here, sometimes you spiral down, and your goal is to consciously know how to bring yourself back here. And it's always going to be like this without shame. Always. The most important thing is to let go of shame because with shame, healing cannot happen.