Dallas Bragg argues that real amends start in the mirror, not with apologies to others. Until you face your own shadow, you'll keep hitting the same conflicts with different people.
I'm saying that the most powerful place you'll ever do amends is in the mirror. Because here's what I've watched happen over and over in this work. You will continue to find yourself in those same situations with the same people until you see what the reflection is telling you, until you see your shadows. So you can apologize and make things better, but that does not excavate the deeper driving forces that led to that circumstance that you're apologizing for. And that person and situation will come back around in various forms until you do see what lies beneath.
