Dallas Bragg tells people in recovery to wait 90 seconds after opening a dating app and ask why they're using it right then. Identify if you're chasing connection, validation, or escape because of rejection or loneliness. Find a healthier way to meet that need first.
So before you open the app, so the phone is in your hand, pause. So am I on autopilot? Which means, am I reacting to getting rejected? Did a guy ghost me? Mm-hmm. Am I feeling really lonely and desperate? Like, am I on autopilot? So don't open that. So once you try to open the app, wait 90 seconds. Ask yourself, where am I? Why am I? clicking on this app right now? You know, so you name the need. You know, what am I seeking? Am I seeking connection? Do I need somebody to validate me 'cause I'm feeling ugly? Yeah. Am I trying to es— am I trying to escape my world right now? Right? If those are the reasons, can I meet them another way? Right? So if I can meet them another way, yes, do it. But if I, if I can't meet them another way, then continue.
