Shadow work means accepting the difficult parts of yourself, not erasing them. Some traits stay hard to deal with, but you can tame them like an ox instead of fighting to destroy them. Self-love includes learning to live with what doesn't change.
But yeah, I mean, you are absolutely right in terms of what you're saying about self-love, and that is also learning to love those parts of you which might not be quite so attractive for whatever reason. And look, you know, some of those parts might always be problematic. We don't necessarily, I mean, even if we do shadow work, we don't suddenly kind of get all these parts and all of a sudden it's one great big loving. Some of these parts might always be difficult. They might always be practical, but they might be holding something for you as well. I keep coming back to energy, but what are they holding for you? Some of them don't need your approval, actually, to be honest with you. But nonetheless, they are there anyway. And I think we all have to face just some of the difficult things in ourselves. We're not angels all of the time. We're not, unless you're a saint or something like that. Most of us do have these elements. And as you quite rightly said, learning to love those elements of yourself as well is really the best route towards kind of transformation. So again, we're not trying to kill the ox, you know, we're not trying to break the ox. Actually, we have a rope. We're just trying to tame it a little bit so it's not so out of control.
