Dallas Bragg says obsessing over not relapsing actually drains the mental energy you need to stay sober. Instead, focus on small wins like "I've been sober five minutes" and visualize the life you want. Your attention follows your energy, so redirect it toward what you're building, not what you're avoiding.
Guys, the reason you keep relapsing is because you're trying too hard not to relapse. It's like if I tell you not to think about a red balloon, all you're going to do is think about a red balloon. I'm sure you've heard, where attention goes, energy flows. You only have so much energy to spend in a day, and when most of that energy is spent trying not to relapse, you're inevitably going to relapse. Spend your energy wisely and focus on the positives. Focus on what life will be like when you are sober. Focus on what What you will be like as your future self, as if it's already happened. Anchor into any small win you can. I've been sober for 5 minutes. Anchor into that. Celebrate that. Congratulate yourself for it. You're spending so much energy on the life you regret that you don't have enough energy to pull you forward for a life that you can be grateful for.
