Dallas Bragg argues that pain and trauma hit everyone differently because the nervous system calibrates each person's threshold uniquely. Even if you've lived through the same hardship, you can't know how someone else feels. Ask "How does that feel for you?" instead of claiming you understand.
Hey, I was just reading that it's been scientifically proven that the nervous system adjusts the pain of a situation or a trauma or an event to fit your individual threshold. That means each of us experience the same situation in totally different ways. I'd like to invite you to stop saying, I know how you feel. Because you probably don't. So you may have gone through a similar situation as someone, like I've gone through a divorce. That doesn't mean that you get to define for another person how long it takes them to heal from it. I've lost a child. That doesn't mean that you get to define for them how long it takes them to grieve. I've also gotten sober. That doesn't mean that you get to define for them what sobriety looks like. So instead of saying, I know how that feels, how about How does that feel for you?
