Dallas Bragg, a chemsex recovery coach, argues that worthiness to help others isn't earned through a certain number of sober days. There's always someone a few steps behind you in recovery, and you can hold space, share your experience, or journal to contribute meaningfully, even early in sobriety.
Here's a way I see men holding themselves back from realizing their full potential in their recovery. Hi, my name is Dallas. I'm a Chemsex recovery coach. I want to invite you to drop this belief that you have to have a certain number of consecutive meth-free days to be worthy of helping other people. There is always somebody 3 steps behind you in their recovery journey. Always. You've been 30 days meth-free. There's somebody in active use. Now, I'm not saying that you have to jump in and help them, like, physically, but you can hold space for them. You can be an example for them. You are worthy of being that wounded healer, no matter how many sober days you have and no matter what title that you've been given, something like newcomer. You have all the knowledge. You have the intuitive ability. The agency, the self-empowerment to do anything you want with your recovery. You don't have to prove your worthiness to anyone because guess what? Worthiness is your birthright, no matter if you use or if you don't use. Sure, you might be more vulnerable at certain times when away from the use. Maybe it's been a week, maybe it's been 2 months. You might be more vulnerable. You still are worthy of calling someone, of just being an example, just living an example. There's always somebody behind you who needs to know that they can do this too. You can start journaling. You can start blogging. You can start doing anything you want and tell somebody about your experience or just log it down. I want you to release yourself from labels and shame about how many consecutive days you have under your belt. That is not an indication of who you are and what you're capable of accomplishing.
