Dallas BraggFormer crystal methamphetamine user, I help men who have sex with men break free from the addictive patterns associated with Chemsex. Currently expanding my expertise by seeking to become a Certified

Your dealer isn't just your dealer. He's your friend. Sometimes for years. Sometimes for decades. He

3 Jun 2026 · 2 min

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In this monologue, Dallas Bragg, a chemsex recovery coach for men who have sex with men (MSM), addresses the deep emotional ties many clients have with their drug dealers, who often serve as long‑term friends and protectors. He explains why these bonds make quitting substances especially challenging and offers practical guidance. Bragg suggests reframing the act of cutting contact as a temporary "pause" rather than a permanent disowning, emphasizing that a genuine friend‑dealer will respect the need to prioritize the client’s well‑being over the drug. He also outlines a broader detox strategy that includes stepping away from pornography, social media, and other relationships, advocating for a period of “monk mode”—a focused, temporary withdrawal from temptations to support recovery. The overall message is that temporary boundaries and holistic detox can help clients break the cycle while preserving the underlying friendship, if it truly exists.

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Many of the guys in my program don't want to let go of their dealer because their dealer has been their best friend. Their dealer has been with them for sometimes decades, has watched their back, has had their back. They give them a safe place to use. There's a lot of benefits that come from that. Hi, my name is Dallas. I'm a chemsex recovery coach helping men who have sex with men. It is really tough. It is really tough when you Know what's best for you. You want to stop using, but you're so connected to your dealer and there's a personal connection there. Here's some advice that I give my guys. One is, if you need to block them for your own sake, then let's reframe that and say, I need to disconnect from you temporarily. I need to put a pause on our relationship. That way it doesn't feel like you're disowning them or turning your back on them, and it doesn't feel that way to them either. If they are such a great friend to you, if they do have your best interests at heart, then you come before the substance. And that means that they're most likely going to be just fine with you doing what you need to do and what's best for you and not give you a fight about it. And I continue to try to offer you more drugs. That's a good test. Listen, you have to detox from a lot of things. Oftentimes pornography, oftentimes social media, and you're going to often have to detox from relationships. Nothing in life is permanent. Everything is temporary. So take a temporary step back. Go into monk mode, as they say. If this person is such a great friend to you, they will be there waiting.