Dallas Bragg traces how childhood abandonment creates a pattern where adults push away parts of themselves as a defense against being left again. He calls the urge to bulldoze through fear a "mindfuck" that deepens separation from your true self, and argues instead for sitting with the fear to understand what it's protecting.
So once you feel abandoned as a child, you tend to take this behavior on throughout your adult life, abandoning yourself repeatedly. The fear of abandonment actually perpetuates abandonment because we are constantly pushing away parts of ourselves and others in case they abandon us. That's a mindfuck right there. Most of us try to push through fear. That's the immediate relief, pushing through it instead of getting curious about it. We try to bulldoze past it. Which actually creates more separation from ourselves. The path isn't around fear. It's through, it's through understanding what our fear is trying to protect us from. In other words, we must sit in the fear and allow ourselves to feel what we are trying to avoid. In the case of abandonment, what would it feel like to be abandoned? Feel that. Face that fear.
