Dallas Bragg argues the worst boundary violation isn't what others do to you, but what you do to yourself by ignoring your own limits. He says crystal meth often enables this self-betrayal, and once it's gone, you have to rebuild your boundaries from scratch.
The biggest boundary violation in your life isn't what your parents did to you, what your ex did to you, what the strangers on Grindr expect from you. It's what you're doing to yourself every single day. Here's what the research shows and what I observe in most of the clients that come to me. When you let someone violate your boundaries, you are in effect violating your own boundaries. You are the one abandoning yourself. You're the one committing the betrayal, and crystal meth has been your accomplice in this betrayal all along. And once this accomplice has been removed, or at least muffled, it is time to take full responsibility for the landscape of your life.
