Dallas Bragg explains how childhood unmet needs create adult shame. He suggests visualizing your younger self when shame arises and offering compassionate words like "You are lovable exactly as you are." A daily practice: pick one thing you disapprove of about yourself and find a reason to approve of it instead.
The shame we feel as adults often reflect wounds from our childhood. So we need to find the hurt child within and offer them the acceptance, the attention that they never received. So when shame arises, imagine your younger self in that moment. What did that child need to hear? What did you need to hear in those moments early on? Offer those words now. You are lovable exactly as you are. Your feelings and desires are valid. You deserve belonging without changing who you are. I made a guided meditation for inner child work that may help. I'll put the link in the show notes. Number 5, daily self-approval. So every day, pick one thing you don't approve of about yourself and work to find approval for it.
