EP 77 Dr Simi - Inner Child

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That. Initially your inner child get your attention by the way of emotions as Theo called them. They are first emotional responders. However, in my experience, what I've noticed is that if you don't pay attention to them, if you don't pay attention to that little frustration, little annoyance, or even that big frustration and the big annoyance, then these inner children try to get your attention by the way of your physical body.

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Hey, good morning. Happy Sunday. We're doing this a lot on Sundays.

It seems like a good time and it doesn't feel as rushy sometimes with the busy week stuff and all that good jazz. It's nice and calm and I'm still drinking coffee, so.

Yeah. And I ski on the weekdays now, so it's all good.

It's nice too, because Sunday is always that time to reflect and what a great way to start our Sunday off. But like we're exploring something, right? We get to engage with the great conversations with people and learn a little bit.

Yeah, I think it's a good day to be reflective of growth and healing and what we can do to better ourselves and. Yeah, so it's appropriate. I know. I used to go to church on Sundays. Now I go to church all the time. I just don't go to a building. So this is my church.

Beautiful. Love it.

So we have the next.

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No, you go ahead.

I was just saying I was meeting. I met some friends last night, but I'm turning 50 tomorrow.

Woo.

And so I've decided to do 50 new things just because. All things. Good for you. The reason I'm bringing it up is again all things good for you. We're always encouraging people to explore and to get curious and to try things. And so I'm doing 50 new things for my 50th birthday year. And yesterday I went and hung out with our last podcast guest, and I took his Tai chi, so that counts as one thing and Wing Chun class. So I did two things, and apparently now I'm Wing Chun master. So I'm like Bruce Lee right now. I got a little bit of. Of a Bruce. I got a little Bruce Lee attitude today, so watch out.

I just started hearing those noises. I know where it's coming from.

That's very exciting.

I'm glad you got to meet up with Mark. That's really. That's great that you got to jump in there and do the Tai chi. That's exciting.

Super fun. Super, super fun.

Yes.

I think the tie in of physical work with the inner work, that's one of the things I liked about the Tai chi, is that it really. It does continuing. Where we're going today, too, is the continuing of the integration of all of us, like movement, inner work. And I feel like Tai Chi helps with that whole mind, body connection. And that's where we're going to go a little bit further today into. We have an exciting guest that's joining us and we're going to. We're going to chat about. Yeah, just some deeper work that we can do and how to integrate that into healing our bodies and our minds and our spirits and how we can transform our lives. So I would say that's a. That's a good thing.

Yeah, there's a lot of layers. We have so many different layers. And I think to continue to put that spotlight on and explore, and even if you feel like you're at a certain place that you feel like life is good, this is good. Is there another layer? Like, what other things can we peel back? And again, we are so conditioned with so many different lenses. That's the one thing I like that I've been thinking about turning 50. It's, what lens do I want to. What lens do I want to put on? Right. Where have I been? And it's been the first time, I would say, in any of the big landmark ones, where I've really have done even more process and really thinking about what that new lens is. And so for everybody listening, even if you might think everything is freaking amazing and awesome, the best of the best, is there another layer, like, to really look into? So we're excited to talk with who we're talking to today that you're going to introduce and see what other layers we can discover.

Yeah, and I just, yeah, the layers are good to dive in. And it, I think we can, as we get in more practices and more awareness and more things and ways we can do it, it's really just self awareness and not maybe if we can shift the framework of approaching self development and awareness and looking at the layers, if we can shift that away from being something scary and overwhelming and shaming and pressure to form. And I think when we get to us when just because of what, how you approach that or what you said about people, you feel like you're doing really well, I don't want you to stop and, and be afraid of looking at, at where you are. It's like just getting to a soft and, and safe place and a strong place of like just self awareness and touching into how am I really doing and everything is feeling good. And let's just open some doors and check in to see is there anything that's being overlooked? Is there something that maybe you haven't been in a good place in the past to address that maybe now you are in a good, healthy, productive place or strong place that you can look at something that maybe is needing to take you to that next level of healing and productivity. So with that, let's welcome in our lovely guest, Dr. Simi Ahuja. I know I was gonna, I'm gonna mess this up right when I go.

To say your name.

But Dr. Simi Ahuja is joining us today and she is a family practice physician. Physician. But she is transitioning over into helping people heal their physical body through the power of the mind and making that mind body connection to empower just that connection and integrating the inner child. So she's going to talk to us today about just some of the work that she's doing, some of the exciting progress that she's made in her life. And let's welcome in Dr. Simi.

Hello.

Hello.

Hello. And hello. Good morning.

Good morning. All right. And just in case I messed it up for everybody, go ahead and just say your name again just so we don't have that out there being pronounced incorrectly. If I did it wrong.

Oh my gosh, you did a wonderful job. And it is pronounced Ahuja, so it's all the vowels and the consonants get pronounced.

Wonderful. Thank you so much for jumping in and joining us. We are excited to hear about the practice and the work that you're doing.

Yeah, it's really been a fascinating journey. The process actually found me in 2012. So this is not something I went looking for. I didn't even know that there was anything, for lack of better word, quote unquote, wrong with me. I was clueless as to what my childhood trauma had done to me. So when this work found me, I was actually just looking for enlightenment, whatever that means to everyone. Me, I just knew I wanted to be enlightened. I had no idea what that meant. All I knew was, that's what I want. So I went for it. And that's how it all started. Oh, that's so good.

Yeah. I think it's interesting when you say that you were. You weren't looking for it. It found you, but there was still this something inside you that knew there was another, as Brian mentioned, a layer or a level of awareness that you just innately knew you were ready.

Yes. There was something just drawing me to my spiritual mentors when I found them in 2012. And they go by the name of Theo, and there are. They are my spiritual parents. So I have a high regard. They've helped me to grow up emotionally. And it's interesting we were talking about Tai Chi earlier because this is a Tai Chi of the mind, and. And like you said, it's mind, body, spirit, and. Yeah, the Tai Chi of the mind. How do we begin to discipline the mind? Through Tai Chi, we discipline the body. And that's very much needed. It's a component, an important component of our healing process. And how do we begin this Tai Chi of the mind?

I love that one thing I learned yesterday, that was really, again, something that I was aware of, but just a huge emphasis within the Tai Chi and the wing chun is it's letting go. There's so much of the movement has to do with the letting go. And I know with this, the inner child work. And you talked about, mentioned childhood trauma, and I know there's different levels. And so some people might not have had some sort of big childhood trauma, but whether it's. Whether it's the big T or little T or whatever, there's always. There's opportunity for this movement with softness and letting go.

I love what you said, moving it with softness, because I think a lot of the times we tend to be so hard on ourselves, and that's what makes this process so much more challenging than it has to be. Going through my journey, what I can tell you is that I didn't have a reference point as to what that softness looks like. So for most people, is that true? I don't know. I can only speak for Myself. And it wasn't until I started to do some deeper inner work and I came across some people who held the space for me and they were very gentle and tender. And that's when I said, oh my goodness. Wow. This doesn't have to be in your face. This can be soft. So I appreciate what you're saying, Brian.

When you were trained as a family practice physician and you worked in that medical field for a while, and then was there a pivotal moment that kind of opened your eyes to going into the inner child work?

Or.

I know you said it was, you weren't seeking it and found you, but was there what. Was there a moment that clicked for you that you're like, oh, I do need to work on this or the awareness of that inner child work.

Work.

Actually, yes. So I was married at the time and nothing in my life was going right and I had graduated from med school with honors and I was earning a six figure income and yet my life was a royal mess. You would think somebody who's making that kind of money would have a decent life. My life was so dysfunctional, meaning I wasn't, I couldn't show up like the mom that I wanted to for my kids. There was just something off. And I didn't know what that was then at a professional level, I wasn't happy. I knew there was something off there too. And this is after a couple hundred thousand dollars in debt and all the years that I spent in medical school. I wasn't at a happy place, to say the least. And so I went in search of something bigger because I knew that it was something bigger that was going to help me because of how messy my life. And I went in search. And so I began to initially read some books. One of the, my very first book was by Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth. And I just, I was just hungry for that. I devoured that book within days. And then I went and searched. Okay, what else? Something else felt like it was missing, so I kept searching and I actually did a course in miracles, some course in miracle Student. And then I found a teacher who really taught us the basics of the course. You can do the course and it's very difficult to understand it. So I went in search of a teacher who could help me to understand the course, because course did help me to bring awareness to certain things in my life. And so I was very much, and I was very much in love with the course because it was helping me to transform myself. And when I went in search of this teacher, she helped me to set the foundation for what happened in 2012. And that was with Theo. She taught me the art of looking within because it is layers. We are an onion. And just as you think you are done with it and lo and behold there's another layer and then another layer and it's a never ending process. It is.

And I, I think the softness right. That we're talking about and there's. We've applied such a oftentimes a negative connotation to the word soft and really there's strength in softness and coming from my background of I'm trying to gently walk into this space. But we are neurologically we're conditioned for good reason to just focus on or give more attention to negative. And even as a child, if you were raised in a quote unquote healthy and loving family, you come out of that. Our brains recognize the negativity and we focus on the harshness and the correction and those can still show up for you later. They register with us as a child in ways that it can be different for everybody on how you take that in. But for safety reason our brain is just going to concentrate on the negative. And allowing ourselves to go back and reassess and reframe some of the things that maybe we interpreted as a child even in a health, in a healthy childhood can really help us just heal parts of our ourselves that maybe didn't face a. A large trauma. But then we go areas of life where many of us did have some significant trauma. Which adds another did you know your.

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Drive layer that is difficult to one even recognize but also obviously difficult to address. And I like in some of our conversation that you were giving us this fragmentation that happens. And the book like the Body keeps the Score really talks a lot about understanding that Place of healing and that trauma. But when we look at the fragmentation I we have, we separate a bit of ourself to be able to process forward and the disassociation that happens when you have trauma. But even for small children that are just learning to listen to the negative, because it's the correction, it's the way of survival, it's the wanting to please a parent and a caregiver, that even if it's not a big trauma, the little things that happen to us can register over time and register deeply as. As a negative and as a trauma. And you can disassociate and shift from possibly who you were really intended. And we were created to be in a wholeness. And so I say all that to just commend you on this space that you're walking to help people go back in a gentleness and a softness. And I was raised as in a Christian home, and it was not a mean Christian home. It wasn't an abusive space. And yet a lot of the things that we come out of in that world is still shame and condemnation and judgment. And to be able to go back and look at it in a softer, loving light, I think the Course in Miracles did a really great job with that. And it does help shift that inner dictation, that fear and condemnation into a softer, loving place. And I enjoyed it from that space, and it really moved me. So I appreciate that that you bring that up. And I thank you for just helping bring that work in from whatever direction and belief system you want to come into it, from the understanding that we can go back with gentleness and kindness to look at what perceptions and understandings we learned at an early age. That was a long. That was a long dialogue, but thank you.

No, you created a beautiful space and you did step into it, so thank you for that. It wasn't long at all. I felt like it was just perfect.

Can I ask a very basic question?

Yes, just listen.

We're talking about the inner child work. And just for the listeners and for clarity for myself, when we talk about inner child work, are we. Are you always thinking about, like, the stuff that happened to us as a child, or do we all always have this inner child continuing through our life that we have to look at, if you could just give me some clarity on what is that you're really looking at with inner child work and then the kind of foundation and mechanisms and stuff as you flow through it and how you do that work.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Great question. So I. If I can just go back and follow through the. With the thread that Amy was speaking to, I want to start out by saying that we focus on negativity. And I know that's what the research has shown. And I would like to just share a different perspective on that and that'll segue into your question, Brian. So I'm taking a little bit of a detour here, if that's all right.

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Yeah, so I, in my experience has been. And I'm going to introduce a topic that I'm not sure how it's received. And yet that was one of the very first things that my spiritual mentors opened my eyes to. So when I migrated to the States, gosh, I was only 12 years old and to come to the States with the background of Sikhism. So I was born to a Sikh family. I no longer practice Sikhism in the traditional sense of the word. And when I came here, it was the Americas and most people were practicing Christ based religions, whether it's Christianity, Catholicism and whatnot. And nobody believed in the concept of reincarnation. And the basis of Sikhism is the three basic premises. God is one, there's one source, which I believe most religions will say that there aren't five gods or 10 gods, there's one, one main source. And then you can have like BR makeups of those sources. Some, like in the Hinduism, they believe in deities and gods and goddesses. When, when Sikhism talks about a God, it's just that one pure source and it doesn't negate any, anything else. And the second premise is that we have karma that we create as we go about our life. And the third one is reincarnation. And these are just the three cog wheels of Sikhism. And the whole life basically revolves around that. And so when I came to the States, I lost myself in particularly because I was severely abused as a child. And then to excuse me, have that identity crisis when I migrated to the States, just as a 12 year old, I began to question everything. Does reincarnation exist or doesn't it? Because in India we say we do, in America we don't. So who's right? So I landed myself in that sense space for, gosh, 30 years until I met Theo. And so I didn't know, I didn't know how to go about life because when you don't have those foundational principles, or when you don't have a good foundation, it's hard to go through life. What do you teach your kids? What do you believe as you're walking down the street? What do you talk to your patients about? What is the truth? So I guess I went in search of that truth for myself basically is what this inner child work has shown me. So going back to your point on focusing on the negativity, I feel that through the process of reincarnation, we are conditioned a certain way. So it's not that we're focusing on negativity, but it's that moment, I call it a moment of revelation. Actually, it's that moment of revelation that tells us what we need to focus on so that we can heal ourselves. It's showing us what's within us. And if we hadn't been conditioned through lifetimes of torture or whatever it is that we went through, we wouldn't pick up on that negativity. Because what I've noticed that what's traumatic for you is not necessarily traumatic for me. So why is that? And it could be the same harshness or the negativity that the person is using. So I feel that is a and erroneous premises to say that we focus on negativity. I feel we focus on whatever it is that we need to heal and whether it's negativity, you can call it that, but I really don't feel that our brain is wired towards that. Now this, like I said, this may be a different perspective. I'm sharing my, in my experience and I've been doing this work for the last 12 years and it is a way of life for me at this point. It's not just I meditate in the morning and then I go up about my day and I come and meditate at night. It, it doesn't work like that. Like in order to do this work you have to be dedicated, you have to be committed, you have to persevere. And this reminds me of some of the Jesus's teachings. He said, be vigilant only for the kingdom of God. What did he mean by that? So when you begin to understand what is revealed in the teachings, rather than saying, oh, what does that mean? It's when your experience is whatever is being revealed in the teachings, that's the process of awakening. And for me, the tool has been the inner child work. And when I think of the inner child, I'll share my 9 year old with you. I think of her, I think of it as a person, not just a situation. Because what happens when we experience trauma? And I don't want to go too much into detail, so please let me know if it's too much and you guys are getting confused because I can take another detour and it's fine.

It's okay. I love it.

Keep rolling. It's really great.

Okay, so when for instance, my nine year old, we lived backtrack a little bit, we lived in a small flat with my dad's sister who was a widow and she had two of her kids who were staying with me. They were my first cousins and then two of her other children were staying with her mother. So my Grandmother and my 9 year old who my 6 year old self was abused by my cousins and sexually abused. And we lived in the same place and it was like a small flat. There was a living room, there was a bedroom and then there was a storage room and a kitchen and there was like four or four of us, my brother and I, my mom and dad, and then three of them. So seven people lived in that little, in that little quarter. And as a nine year old we had a balcony that served as like the rooftop to the shop underneath us. So we live on top of a bazaar and we would walk out to the balcony and we could see the hustle and bustle of the bazaar. And so we were on top on the balcony that day and we were playing badminton and I would throw the birdie every time diagonally so it would go and land in front of the shop. And so somebody would have to go and get the birdie. That was. And then my, then they, they said I couldn't play anymore because I did that every time. And I couldn't understand why I was doing it at the time. I'm like, why can't I play? Because I'm usually not that bad because we're used. We grew up playing badminton in India. And so they told me I couldn't play and I got so angry that I went inside the house and I grabbed anything I could get my hands on. It was like a hurricane hit the house. And I threw the sheets on the floor. I threw, we had these steel, stainless steel glasses and plates. We didn't have like your usual plates and glasses because they break easily. So for more economic, for economic reasons, we use those kind of glasses and plates and I started to just throw them on the floor. Part of me knew that it wasn't going to break, obviously. And when my mom came home, because she wasn't home at the Time when she came home and she saw the house was in shambles because of her daughter, she started to beat the crap out of me. She even took her shoe off and everything. And I think this was the first time she may have taken her shoe off, but a slap on the face was like, was like it was a staple and going coming back now. So I had a lot of anger towards that obviously as a nine year old because I didn't feel seen or heard. And as I began to do this inner child work, what she then revealed to me.

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Is that she was angry at her cousins for abusing her. So this was her passive aggressive way of doing the birdie diagonally. So she would be seen or she would be hurt or she would get revenge, so to speak. And her mother didn't take the time to say, hey, what happened? She just went ham on her because of her trauma. And I get, I get all that. There's a total forgiveness on my part. This is why I can talk about this stuff so gently. And so what she revealed to me was that she was hurt by that. And so when I think of her, I think of her as a being. It's not just that situation. That situation just got woven into her. It became a part of her. It's not who she is. And that's the process of the inner child work. It helps you to detach, it helps you to dis, idealize, identify with that egoic self of you. And rather you begin to see them as beautiful beings who really have a mind of their own. Because when the soul splits, and this is where it gets a little bit deeper, when the soul splits, so does the mind. And that's what a Course in Miracle talks about, right? It talks about how the mind is insane because the mind is split. This is how it gets split and it doesn't matter whether the it's a big T or little T brand, as you said it, it's actually, it is equally disturbing to your peace of mind. Yeah.

Yeah, I think it's interesting. First of all. Sorry, Brian, do you want to pipe?

It's okay. I can, I'll come back to it.

Okay.

One like one. Sorry that you experienced abuse in your childhood. And wonderful that at whatever time frame we can go back and process and look at those moments and find understanding and forgiveness and even if it's just with self or the moment and use that as a way to integrate it into our current state as a strength. And I, I'm curious like when you go back with the process that you work through now, you, when you go back into that the childhood space and the childhood mind and that nine year old or whatever age, we go back and recognize a moment where we can understand there was something we experienced and we didn't get to process it or regulate it or express it and understand it. When the work that you're doing with people now, do you, is there a process specifically that you help them go back to those places or explore those feelings? When something comes up at a certain age, what. How do you work that through now in a practice?

Yeah, beautiful question again. Basically, our emotions, our feelings are a gateway into our subconscious mind and they run our life until we make a conscious choice to look at it. It's like taking the bull by the horn and saying, fine, I'm willing to look at this. Right? And that's where one of my favorite quotes, I just wanted to throw that out there is may there be kindness in your gaze when you look within. Because we do tend to be so hard on ourselves. And when we can go through that emotion and even if it's like a small emotion or a small frustration, we think, oh, that was just a little frustration. In my experience when I sat with it, there's a whole iceberg underneath where that little teeny tiny scratch is coming from, so to speak. So it's, it really is very transformative for us if we can even look at that little annoyance or little frustration. And the way to enter that is what I call the emotional storage shed. It is an area right in between your throat chakra and your heart chakra in the middle of the chest and so in between those two spots and it's right in the middle of your chest. If you can just bring your awareness to that when you're feeling that frustration that's like your portal to go into the subconscious mind to try and figure out okay, so what really is annoying me, what really is frustrating me, what is angering me, what is making me jealous, what is making me resentful. And when you begin to ask these questions, questions the universe delivers may not deliver right in that moment. Although obviously if you're feeling frustrated, you will feel may deliver it within a day or two. It will bring forward the answers when we begin to ask those questions.

Wonderful.

So what about so a situation? Let's just say a lot of people or for me there's so many parts within my childhood I just don't remember. Not that they were bad. And let's just say I'm in that place where life is good, I've done but I still want to peel back, peel back some layers. And you brought up the nine year old. So clearly there was something that was directing you to that specific age. Maybe or maybe not, I don't know. But like how where somebody that wants to peel back another layer that maybe hasn't had as much childhood trauma or something that really jumps out. But when I want to go deeper, where would I start? Would I and define like what age of what child that I need to meditate on or do the work with or.

Sure. So you bring up a great point.

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First of all, when even now, okay. And I can say I am a self realized being and yet there is still stuff that comes up because when you say life is good, I'm not saying it's not. And there's always these little moments that that frustrate you, that annoy you. So it's to bring your awareness to those little moments. And like I said, they still come up for me because this journey is never ending. That's why they say there are no destinations and I say there are no destinations. And there are milestones along the way such as self realization. It's a major milestone and yet I continue to see patterns in myself because again, it's an onion and we're going to continue to peel it off. So I would say if you can bring your attention to a moment that frustrated you, even if it was like, say you were driving and somebody cuts in front of you, that's a moment of frustration. And the way then to go in is to ask yourself, okay, when was the first time I ever felt this particular emotion? And when you word it like that, it'll show itself to you and that's when the age will come up. It'll let you know of a situation that you, when you first felt this particular emotion in. And then by the way of the situation, you can figure out, oh, I was 8 years old or I was 2 years old or I was 5 years old. And that's how we get to the age part of it. So it's the situation, it's mostly the feeling that actually takes you back that threads it to your. That threads your current day moment to a moment in a past that you may have experienced.

Yeah, thank you for that clarity. Just because I also, again, I love what you said earlier about the things that you focus on or the thing. Some of the things you focus on are the things that need healing. And for some people listening, like we all are at different places. And for some people, some people are just like, I'm good, everything's. But I like just even the, the simplest example that you use because there's always a thing underneath the thing. And so I love that example. Again, we're trying to get people to be self, to, to recognize and have their little alarms go off with specific things that keep coming up in their life. And then what do you do with that?

Sorry, are you asking what, what do you do with that information?

No, I was just. Again with the podcast, all things. Good for you. One of the things that we're always trying to get people to do or help people do or deliver information about is how to become self. And it's interesting that word self aware. I was going to have a convers that earlier when you kept bringing that up, Amy, because it made me think of something. So I'll come back to. But just like paying attention and like all the little things, the little thoughts or the behaviors or the actions and things that we do. What do those mean? And to have people think a little deeper and dive into that a little bit more. So the example, I was just saying the example that you use is perfect for. One of the goals of this podcast is that sometimes those little things Have a much deeper again, a thing underneath the thing. I was just pulling that together.

Got it. Okay, thank you. Understood.

Dr. Simi, are you. When you're. The work that you're doing now, you talk specifically about how it. Working on the inner child helps with the physical health. Can you speak to how that showed up for you or maybe with some of the people that you're working with, what that would look like?

Yes. So when I first started with Theo 12 years ago now, like I said, I was confused about reincarnation and all that, and I was still working through some of the basic spiritual concepts. And I came across a gentleman. He was in Germany, and at the time, he was 70 years old. 7,070. And he had gone to a surgery for hernia repair. So he was asking for prayers, and the whole group sent him prayers. Then he was asking for a second set of prayers a month later because that surgical wound developed into an abscess, so infection. And he underwent a second surgery. Then he was back again asking for more prayers a month later, saying he had. He needed another surgery because he had developed something called a hematoma, which is, again, it doesn't allow the edges to come together. It's a blood clot. And so he underwent a third surgery. Lo and behold, he came back asking for prayers for fourth surgery. And I was like, oh, my God, what's going on? So something in me told me to pay attention, so I paid attention. And somehow we connected. I don't remember how we connected via email. And he shared with me that he had been married for the last 50 years, but he had been estranged from his wife for the last 20, and they lived in the same house, like roommates, basically. And so I got the download the information that he needed to heal his relationship with his wife in order for the wound to heal. And I shared this information with him. And initially he was very upset with me because, leave my wife out of this. This. She's not a part of this spiritual class. And I said, hey, listen, buddy, don't shoot the messenger. This is the first time I ever got an information like that. So I was. I was scared and I was excited. So I was experiencing all those emotions. And lo and behold, two days later, he got in touch with me again. And he goes, fine. He goes, I'm going to just give her. I'm gonna do baby steps, and I'm just going to give her unconditional love. And I'm like, that's a great baby step, buddy. I'm like, yeah, I wasn't gonna tell him that it was.

That's pretty significant.

Exactly. So he did. He stepped out of the way and he began to show her unconditional love. And within 10 days, he be sorry. Within two days, he rekindled his relationship. Within 10 days, his wound healed completely. And this is a seroma. And as physicians, we know that Seroma doesn't heal 10 days, it takes months. If it heals, it leaves a disfiguring scar. So either way, the person needs a surgery to get rid of the scar or to bring the edges back together of the wound in the seroma, it doesn't heal in 10 days. So when I saw that, and it reminded me of the quote from the course where it says, an illness is a sign of anger in the mind. Period. Period. This isn't taken out of context. It's a separate line and italicized all by itself. So when Jesus says that an illness is a sign of anger in the mind, and of course, in miracles, I knew what he meant then, and that's was what I was alluding to earlier. It's not so much that the teachings will lead you to your enlightenment, but rather your enlightenment will reveal what is in the teachings.

Yeah, Yeah. I love that. When we think about just all of the body being vibrations and energy and circulation, all of it. And then the now as we're advancing in more imaging and we can document, so to speak, the validation of the fact that we are vibration and energy. And it makes much more sense that when we can find that space of releasing and healing things, that our bodies will vibrate better, resonate better, and heal better. How do you help people to just begin that process? Then if somebody was going to come to work with you, how do you help? Slowly step them in, or what does it look like to do a practice with you?

I did forget to mention a key ingredient in all of this, and that is that that initially your inner child get your attention by the way of emotions, as Theo called them, they are first emotional responders. However, in my experience, what I've noticed is that if you don't pay attention to them, if you don't pay attention to that little frustration, little annoyance, or even that big frustration and the big annoyance, then these inner children try to get your attention by the way of your physical body. I can share real quick. I know we're coming towards an end here of our. Of our podcast here.

Keep going.

So I remember when I first moved to Colorado, and this was back in 2015, all of a sudden I developed a rash on my leg, it was blistery. It looked like a poison IV rash. And yet I had not gone out because it was the middle of winter when I moved here and I tuned in to see, okay, which inner child it was. I said, okay, what's going on? So it was my 9 year old who was scratching my leg from the inside. And this goes back to energy. This is an energetic scratch, right? Because she was so angry. She was scratching it with her nails on the inside and it was a pre and it was producing a rash on the outside that was blistering. I'd never had this rash before. And when I looked down at my leg, it was deep enough where I'm like, shoot, this is going to leave a scar. And it took me about. So it depends on the depth of the trauma, obviously, but for me it took me about three months. And when I say three months, I was at it almost all day every day because that was a way of life for me.

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After three months, the rash went away completely. And this is after I soothed her because this was her way of getting my attention. And the rash went away and it never left a scar on my leg. And so the way to go into that physical illness is through an emotion. How is that physical illness? So for instance, if you say have high blood pressure, when you think about high blood pressure, how does it make you feel? See again, the feelings are the portal into our unconscious and our subconscious mind. Then ask yourself again, okay, when was the first time I ever felt this way? And then you will get to the inner child and then you can begin the soothing process and the soul retrieval process, basically. So meaning you begin to integrate them back into the soul.

Yeah, and I, I appreciate the helping. People just begin to recognize I'm just going to quote my favorite person since we're bringing him up a lot today. Jesus. He, you know, says take every thought captive and place it before the kingdom. And it's. We do need to take every thought captive and if we. And it doesn't have to be an exhaustive thing. And I think in the beginning it can feel overwhelming and stressful because people's first thought feeling and then it provokes a response in the body and some people get overwhelmed by that and they shut that off also. I think we've done a lot to the pendulum swinging of the feelings. And I like to tell people feelings are a starting point and they're a signal. And the emotions and the feelings are here as a messenger. And the messenger needs to complete its job by you recognizing what is that feeling and where is it coming from and what is your respons ability for that feeling. We can't just have feelings and then just let them roam and be wild. There's a reason for them. And I think when you get into a place where if somebody was to just start doing this and this isn't their norm, we are big into self development. We're, we're, this is comfortable for us. But for many people, they aren't even able to be at that place. To name a feeling. I, when I work with my coaching clients, I give them the feelings wheel. And I said, I know this seems rudimentary or silly, but when you're working through things, go to the wheel and really seek out a specific deeper process that this feeling is giving you. And then what I do in my practice is where does this come up for you? Does it do when you think about this feeling, does it take you back and make you think of a moment in time, a person or a familiar environment, like go in and identify what that feeling is trying to provoke in you or remind you of and then start from there from where that what in my terminology for my coaching is kid logic. And that's where that inner child, that, that space wherever you received this information and your brain took extra neuron connections and made it more impactful for you to remember it in some form or fashion. Whether you're remembering it cognitively or you're remembering it spiritually, or you're remembering it in an emotional attachment to something, your brain made something, an interpretation of a scenario and made it impactful enough for it to remind you of it on a regular basis. And so when you work in with people that are just interested in starting this space and they're Maybe not used to coming into it. Do you work with them through a breath work or a process of just recognizing, like you said, Is it just an irritation? Like, where did that come from? What would somebody look. What would that look like for somebody who just wants to begin that practice? I guess I think maybe I'm repeating myself, but I want to give people a good understanding who may not be familiar with this and are getting those insights of maybe I need to check in on something. Why is my life kind of feeling disrupted and I'm not feeling like it should be what I quote, unquote, think it should be?

Yeah, I know. I'm glad you're repeating yourself, because I think I skirted around that issue a little bit. So let me. So, basically, first of all, I want to say that we all have to start somewhere. And when I first started, I was as unaware as they get. I was. Yeah, I wasn't even aware that my trauma had caused any issues within me. I was like, I'm done with it. It's okay. It's. It's. Especially growing up in the culture that I was brought up. Therapy is bad. This has a very negative connotation to it. Yeah, no, we're good. We're in the as deep of a denial as they get. So this is where my gift of medical intuitiveness comes in handy. So we start out really gently, softly. And when somebody comes in. Okay, I want to do this again. Start bringing awareness to that emotional storage shed that I talked about. That's where all of your feelings, emotions, experiences are stored in. And if you're having a hard time bringing awareness into that area, put your hand over it. I would say you activate it by. By just rubbing the area, like in a circular fashion and just bringing your awareness. So again, a journey of a thousand steps. Start with the. Starts with the first step. So we're starting with the first step by step by putting our hand on that emotional storage shed on our chest and just feeling, what do you feel in there? And as we deepen into this practice, I give them a homework. Okay. Your homework is to just feel throughout the day, what do you feel? Put those emotions into words. And the way the energy works is that the more specific you can get, the better it is. So throughout the day. Okay. And take up the bigger emotions. Okay. What made you angry today? Did that guy who pulled in front of you, did that. Is that what made you angry? Or was it the cashier who was just too slow to just get you through the cash register process? So whatever it is. Start paying attention. Right. Because the awareness has to come in somewhere, and it is their journey. We can hold their hands and we can make these suggestions. So these are some of the suggestions I make. I also recommend meditating. And Theo always said no less than five minutes, no more than 30 minutes. So it's not like you have to sit there for hours. And so I would even set a timer initially. Let's start the meditation process. And meditation, to me is like training for the marathon. And inner child work is the marathon that we're training for. So it helps to quieten the mind enough where you can then tune into your feelings. What am I feeling? And in what instance? What feeling did that bring up? And through my medical intuitiveness, then I can also help them to bring it, to get the stuff it. Yeah. Was. Was it frustration? Is it jealousy? Because sometimes that's all it takes is a little bit of an awareness. So as we're all empaths, and I'm sure you can do that too in your coaching, and a friend can do that for a friend, because we're empaths and we feel. So if that person is having a difficulty feeling because we oftentimes read the other person better than we can read ourselves. And so having that close enough friends that. That trust that's built into your friendship, then maybe you can ask a friend and say, hey, can you just share with me what it is that you see in me? Because we all have blind spots. So those are just some of the ways that I've circumvented the number that we are so conditioned with. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve or it's not okay. Just have a smile on your face all the time. And yeah, so we are definitely conditioned. And these are just some of the tools that I use to get around it. That's great.

I. It's interesting. It's interesting that you're saying we're in your childhood or upbringing and culture that it was the. You just. Therapy was bad because I feel like even here in the States, we come from that space too, and that we're just now getting more and more comfortable and integrating therapy as a norm and recognizing the benefits of it. So I love where we are in society and that this. This tipping point of getting a balance, of healing ourselves to physically be healthy, emotionally, spiritually, to be healthy, and then create good, healthy relationships and connections with people. So I thank you so much. And I did want to say, just because you mentioned the meditation, you have a free guided meditation on your website@drsimises.com that could help people maybe start to walk through some of this and practice a meditation.

That is correct. Yeah.

And you have a book coming out too, I believe, right?

Yes, I have a book coming out. It's at the publishers as we speak. And it's called Raising the Inner Child. And it's basically about the depth that the inner child work can take you to. So it's more of a reference point than a manual. And that's why I do the classes to help teach this to others and how you can begin to tap into that inner child that lies within you.

That's so wonderful. So if I. Yeah, that's a lot. It's so much in a good way. But I think maybe what we can wrap it as we're wrapping up here is the beginning with the recognition of your feelings. Allowing yourself to have awareness of what you're experiencing feeling. And then start to identify where and what is triggering or causing or stirring that feeling. And then the name it, tame it process, like naming what that feeling is, what could be causing it, why you might be having that feeling, and then maybe looking for the deeper threads to where that feeling began for you in life. If you can take it back to a scenario or situation and look at that scenario, a situation, connection as a child space and looking like at a child mirror of yourself for when that feeling came up for you to help understand it and have more of a gentle, compassionate understanding of why and where that feeling came up for you and maybe why your body and brain is registering an association of today's experiences with those previous experiences, those childhood experiences. And then to be able to take that and start to walk into time with that through a. A little bit of a meditation process. And that would be a good beginning space for somebody to work on inner child healing. Is there anything that I missed in that you want to add to it?

It. That was a beautiful summary, Amy. Great, great job in doing that. Thanks.

My inner child's very happy right now.

Thank you. Courtesy of the inner child work.

Well, thank you for sharing all that beautiful information too. I really, again, just. There's so much therapeutic value to it. Just again, like how to. I was just listening to you and thinking about my life and little emotions that come up and I don't think I spend enough time even just thinking about what emotions I have. So that's why sometimes things seem good because I don't spend time with them. So I'm gonna go spend some time with my emotions today.

Awesome. Thank you guys for having me on the show here. It's really, it's an honor. Thank you.

Thank you. And if people, your website again is Dr. Simi says and they can find out more about the practice in general and your approach and if they want to work with you. How I do you do online interactions with people or all in person, how do you typically work with people?

Yeah, it's in person and online as well. I've had clients from Canada and some of the other countries as well, so that's not unheard of. And we can work with you because energy doesn't know time and space. Yeah, good.

Love it.

Nice.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

You.

Thank you guys. Thank you as well.

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We're just, we're so good at that.

I would just say, Brian, if you want to wrap us up, I think this was wonderful and a great place for people to begin just looking into that, that inner child space. And I think we're going to, for the lucky local folks at some point do maybe a live workshop or some kind of work together with Dr. Simi at our our location here in the Denver area. So we'll keep people posted on that if you're in the local space. And yeah, thanks for putting this together, Brian. I know this was something that came across your plate and this has been a really fantastic topic. So I hope hopefully it's going to be helpful for everybody to feel all things good in their life, even getting better and better. Appreciate you putting all that together, Brian.

Yeah, absolutely. Thank you and thanks everybody for listening. We appreciate you as always. So please continue to check us out if there's anything you want to hear. Drop us a note or any conversations you'd like to have. As always, friends or family members or anyone you that could benefit, pass this podcast on and leave us some great, amazing reviews. So thank you guys.

Awesome everybody, have a great day. Dr. Simi, thank you again and we'll talk to you guys again soon.

Soon.

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