Dave Willis explores how childhood shapes what spouses expect for their kids. One partner wants expensive extracurriculars because they had them growing up; the other didn't and questions if they fit the budget. The tension: negotiating family priorities when you come from different backgrounds.
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The one that's, that's coming in with more money, background, they're probably, as it relates to your own children, not just like grandchildren, but your own children. You're thinking, well, I mean, I grew up and, and we got to do this, you know, with kids. You know, the kids got to do these activities and these special classes and events and these things that are all very expensive. And. And so, like, our kids need to do that. And the spouse that came from us is going to say, maybe that's not worth the money. Well, like, I didn't have any of that stuff, and I turned out fine, you know? Are you saying that your kid has to have all that to be fine? Like, you married me, I didn't have any of that. And plus, we together right now don't have the money to do all those things. Right? But the one that. That's what they're used to is like, well, well, no, I have to do those things because that's what parents do for their kids, because that's what my parents did for me. And you have to decide together what is it going to look like for our family exactly in our budget.