Dave Willis explains how to bring out the best in your spouse: treat them as if they're right, notice and thank them for small positive actions, and deliberately look for the good. What you seek in your partner is what you'll find.
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You think, well, my spouse isn't awesome right now. I think your marriage could become better if you start treating your spouse as if they were right. If you start calling out those things, you want to see more of them. If you start thanking them for those things they're doing right, even if that list is small right now, find something to thank, something to praise, and focus on that. Good, because if you get your mind just focused on the negative, it's all you're going to see. Jesus said, seek and you will find, and the verb tense he used is really saying, whatever you keep seeking is what you will find. If you keep looking for the negative in your spouse, it's all you're going to see. But if you choose to look for the positive and to praise the good, you're going to see it at every turn.