Dave Willis describes the "ghost" type of in-law: emotionally or physically absent family members. He explains why this happens—divorce, death, remarriage, being pulled into a new family—and warns that if you remarry, don't become one yourself. Stay present for your kids and grandchildren.
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The 10 types of unhealthy in laws. And that's what we call the ghosts. It's heartbreaking. And, you know, if the smother is there all the time, a ghost is never there, right? And when you want them to be you, you want a relationship, and this is heartbreaking. I mean, this is one of the saddest ones on the list. You desperately want them in your life, you want their influence, you want their mentorship, their friendship, and for whatever reason, they are just absent. I think this can happen in a lot of different scenarios. I think I've seen this happen where maybe your parent or your spouse's, maybe there's a divorce or a death, and that parent remarries and kind of gets pulled into that new spouse's world and family in a way where you feel abandoned. It's heartbreaking. And so if that happens to you, if you're a parent and you've remarried, just make sure you don't turn into a ghost. Because your family, your kids, your grandkids, they need you, they want you. And so be present as much as you can.