How long may it take for receptive desire to develop for some people?

Name: Never in the Mood? Watch This! | Dr. Michael Sytsma
Uploaded: 2023-04-28T16:00:14+00:00
Duration: 51 s
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Description: Dr. Michael Sytsma explains receptive desire: some people aren't spontaneously in the mood but can learn to become aroused through mindful engagement. It…

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Never in the Mood? Watch This! | Dr. Michael Sytsma

28 Apr 2023 · 1 min

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Dr. Michael Sytsma explains receptive desire: some people aren't spontaneously in the mood but can learn to become aroused through mindful engagement. It often takes five to ten minutes of touch and feeling desired before receptive desire emerges, but most couples rush this phase and prevent it from developing.

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Five to ten minutes into sexual play.

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And maybe the receptive desire does have to learn that, well, I'm not horribly in the mood, but if I choose to and engage and allow my brain to focus in and be mindful of the moment and of the touch and how much I love being with my spouse and being desired by my spouse, that my body starts to engage and then I can be aware of my body engaging and I I that's pretty cool. And somewhere right about in that point is when the receptive desire kicks in. And for some, it may be five to 10 minutes into to sex play. And if both people understand that's how it works and can be patient with it and wait for it to develop, then when it shows up, it can move on to be rich for both. Many couples just rush that early process. Let's just get it done and never give time for the receptive desire to settle into it.