This Is How Affairs Actually Start…😳 | The Naked Marriage Podcast | Dave & Ashley Willis

Some really healthy boundaries are that you should never put yourself in a position where you are trying to bear a burden with someone of the opposite sex who's not your spouse or a relative. Or a relative, exactly. And so it's just tricky. I know some of you are gonna disagree with us on this, but you guys, we do this for a living. We see affairs happen like this time after time where it started so innocently and really with good intentions to help a person, but your guard comes down because you're having these very intimate conversations. And before you know it, you find yourself in a place doing something you never intended on doing, and it's so heartbreaking. So just have really good boundaries in place when it comes to the opposite sex. But I think too, you could be led to help someone who is the same sex as you, and that can be fine if your spouse is comfortable with you helping that person as well. Because there's been times where you're trying to help, uh, you're not crossing the, the, the gender boundary per se, but maybe this person is sucking all of your time, is sucking all of your energy, and is just taking advantage of you to the point as a detriment in your marriage. And so it's something where you need to talk to your spouse about that and say, is this something where you can provide help in this way? And also, is this wise, you know, for our own marriage? Because sometimes it can mess with you when you're trying to help others.

You do exactly, you put those boundaries in place because none of us are Jesus.