Why Dating Is Hard | Kait Tomlin

Dating has. Is a relatively new concept in our current. Our cultural moment. And before that, it was very different. You know, like, it was arranged marriages or marriages for political reasons. And so it was just. You didn't have really a choice in who you got to marry. And now we do. We have that choice. That's awesome. But then it makes it all complicated because we're like, wait, I have to decide. There's so many elements to this. Everybody has their own dating playbook out there. But then I'm sitting. Sitting across from somebody on a date, and they have a totally different playbook that they think also is completely right. Right. Because it's based on their cultural upbringing, their family influences, the pastors around them, the community around them, all these things. And, like, this is the way to date. Well, and so I'm sitting there on a date being like, oh, this the way he dates. No, that's not right. This is the way to date. So it's. There's so many. There's so much weirdness in the dating space because there isn't a set way or, like, healthy parameters out there.