Perfect Goal Setting / Dr. Yvonne

I've put interview suggestions, goal setting, whatever you want to call it. We want her to be in a better place when she leaves you. All right, so my question is, I've not seen you in a year.

What's happened in this last year? You look amazing.

Right, and look at this, like, what? Total surprise, like, I wasn't expecting that exactly. What happens is, in Kryon itself it says, "How will your life improve if you have prosperity?" That leads Stephanie to answer, "I will have, I will have this, I will be." It leads you into a tense which is future tense, which won't come true because it's like "try." It actually leads you into not succeeding. So if you try to do something, you'll never get there. If you just do it— so I realized that I had to find a way, a sentence that would lead someone into "I am, I am, I am doing this, I am doing that." Alright? Remember present tense and dated. So I'm going to say it's the date it is and then one year ahead. So I'm going to actually write down the date of a year ahead.

Alright?

So we're going to write down a year ahead and just put the date so you remember to say it.

Alright?

So we're going to read through it first of all. You can read with me. So she's going to say, "I am slim, I'm healthy, I breathe freely, I'm in a great relationship," etc., etc. When you write that down, you're going to write "you," not "I." You are, you are, you are, okay? You are, so you'll be saying, "You're slim and healthy, you breathe freely, you're in a great relationship," etc. You're going to write one or more pages of the client's goals, so, and we're going to repeat it. So what I'm going to do, I'm going to repeat it 3 times to you when we do it. All right? So that it— the unconscious mind loves repetition. Remember, it likes forming habits. If we read it through 3 times, it's very, very simple and sweet. So during the deepest part of hypnosis, that's when you're going to read the suggestions, when she's literally got to the point where she's like this, or she's just like this, and we want to make sure we've done all the other steps first, to get her into that. So we've done the Sway Test, we've got all that done, and so we have to state all the goals in positive language. So if you look here, it says 3 super successful interview keys: state the goals in positive language. So she'll say, "I'm not poor anymore, I'm not fat anymore." So our job is to say, "If you're not fat and you're not poor, what are you?" Only writing down the positive things. We're never ever going to include "you're not fat anymore" or "you're not poor anymore." 'You're not poor anymore,' or— see, my language automatically gets to positive words. So, 'I don't smoke anymore.' If you're not smoking, what are you? 'I'm a non-smoker.' All right, then we're going to change the goal into an action or behavior. We want to introduce movement and actual moving forwards. So, 'I have a lot of money.' When you have a lot of money, what are you doing with that money? Oh, I'm traveling the world, I'm going, you know, whatever. And then you're going to get specific and say, when you're traveling the world, what countries are you seeing? Who are you with? What's happening there? And really elicit some good information, okay? We never say why or why not in this part, because if you say, you know, if you say, why aren't you slim already? They wouldn't be seeing you if they weren't slim, or if they were already slim, right? So the why is not a great question. How is a much better question. Question. What are you doing? How are you doing it?

Cool?

So you'll get better with practice as you do this, and you can literally flip through it as you finish, and if you see a negative expression, "I'm not smoking anymore, so I'm not breathing the way I used to," and you go like, "What? It doesn't make sense." So you don't even mention that she's a non-smoker, you just say you breathe easily and freely. That's it. We replace it with just a very positive sentence.

This is Positive Suggestion Therapy.

So I'm going to write in your book, Stephanie.

Okay.

Where is your book? And when you're doing this with your partner, you're going to write their suggestions in their book, so they can even read it into their own phone and record it for you.

Thank you.

Okay. Tome of a book, it's magic.

Hello, Stephanie. Right. So, you said you were going to be prosperous a year ago, and obviously you are. I've not seen you for a whole year. What's been happening?

What have you been doing?

It's been great. It's been a wonderful year. Lots of self-growth, lots of self-love.

Hang on a minute, I want to get all this down, it's really important.

Self-love.

And you're going to write it down verbatim, her words, not yours. Her words are the most sweet words she can hear. And if she goes ahead like she did, because they'll get really enthusiastic at this point, like, oh my God, I'm going to— and they'll actually— you want that emotion there, because emotion is the driver of success, remember that. Excitement is the hotline to God. So you've been, it's been a wonderful year, you've had self-growth and lots of self-love. What else is happening with your financial situation?

I'm wealthier, I'm more prosperous.

Are you wealthier?

We're talking about now. So when she says wealthier, what has to happen is you're thinking of the time before when you weren't wealthy. So I am wealthy.

I am wealthy.

Mm-hmm.

I'm well. I am taking on more clients.

Mm-hmm.

I'm really happy in my job.

Mm-hmm.

My career makes me feel great.

Hang on a minute. This is gold. I want to get it all down.

"Okay, what else?

What kind of money are you earning?" "I'm earning a 6-figure salary." Mm-hmm. Notice what she did. She said, "I'm earning," and she did her head this way. And what she was— a lot of hypnosis is about observing the other person. She did this, "I'm earning," and she thought of a figure and went, "Not a chance." Right? So what did I do? Did you notice what I did? I started nodding my head and saying, "What kind of money?" And she started joining the head nodding, and then we got a congruency. Yes, Elisa?

Are you to interrupt while she's going through the questions?

No, I'm not going to interrupt. Good, thank you. I'm not going to interrupt while she's doing it. I'm interrupting it now just because I'm going to show you how to do it. Thank you for pointing that out.

But you're writing it down how it should be written.

I'm writing exactly, no, I'm writing exactly what she said.

And then afterwards you would, I guess, go into—

You can take 2 minutes and just say, you know, go to the washroom before we start the session, before we start the hypnosis, actual hypnosis. You always get them to go to the washroom before the session, by the way. It's not fun sitting there thinking, I wish I'd gone to the washroom before we started. So you really feel great. So what kind of money are you earning again?

I'm earning a 6-figure salary.

Mm-hmm.

And I'm taking on more and more clients and—

Well, hang on a minute, hang on.

Yes, and?

And wealth continues growing. Each week it's growing more and more.

And what are you doing with that money? What are you using it for?

I'm investing in myself. I'm investing in real estate. Mm-hmm. I'm seeing the return. On those investments.

Mm-hmm.

And I'm using that money to grow further.

Right.

I'm abundant.

Mm-hmm. And what are you going to do with that money eventually when you're really ready to you know, do something with it. What are you planning to do?

Enjoy it and travel with that money and design my home in a way that feels like a vacation home all the time.

And what kind of countries would you go to?

I would go to Italy, I would go to France, I would go to Spain, I would go to South Africa. I would go to Australia.

Nice.

I'd go to Argentina.

And who would you be with when you do this?

With the love of my life.

Wow, you met the love of your life this last year. That is fantastic. That is amazing. Me too.

Yeah. Yeah.

What's he like?

He's wonderful. He's tall, he's handsome. Okay. He also earns a lot of money.

Oh, he does? So he's financially secure?

Financially secure. He loves to travel, but more importantly, he loves to— he loves to grow. He's very interested in this work that I do.

Really lovely. And they'll just sit there and watch you write. They'll just be like daydreaming about the love of life, right? So you don't— it's quite comfortable to do this.

Who loves to grow, very interested. I want to put that in for sure.

What work does he do?

He also coaches people in his field. Mm-hmm. He helps to develop himself and others.

Nice.

Are there any plans for the future with him?

Isn't that the future though? We'll be talking about—

No, that's good. When are you going to get married?

In 2023.

Mm-hmm.

That's the year.

Awesome.

Fabulous.

So When you met him, how did it make you feel?

Uh, at peace. Mm-hmm. Calm, happy.

Yeah.

Healthy and excited.

And what does he say about you?

Oh, he thinks I'm exquisite. Ah, he's enamored. Oh, lovely. So happy to be with me. He can't wait to get home from work at night just to see me.

Fabulous.

I love it.

It's all he thinks about all day.

Exactly. They're taking a constant honeymoon right now. So what kind of things do you do together? What do you do together? What do you share?

Uh, a love for nature, hiking, cooking, meditating.

And do you usually just go together, or do you have friends as well?

Those things we do together.

You do mainly together?

Mainly together, yeah.

And does he have a group of friends who you're friends with?

Yeah.

It does, and we're a social couple.

Okay.

And we really enjoy hanging out with our like-minded friends.

Nice.

Who also appreciate this type of work.

And how has earning so much money made you actually enjoy this better?

It allows me to, to be more adventurous without having to think about the cost of anything.

Okay, so that I wouldn't put in. See, you automatically go into a negative. I'm just going to not even write that one down. So it allows me to be more adventurous, you said?

And free.

Good.

Allows me to enjoy new opportunities, to see new places and try new things, and give experiences.

And?

Give experiences.

Oh, so you give back as well? Yeah. Mm-hmm. What do you do when you give back?

Who would you give to?

To others who have suffered with anxiety before.

Right, so you're helping people who suffer with anxiety, right? Are you making a difference to people's lives, do you feel?

Yes.

Mm-hmm. So I wrote down, I give back to others, people who've had anxiety. I didn't, I don't want to put the word suffer in there, and I want to put the anxiety in the past, so we, who've had anxiety in the past. Yes?

Another question, if you, like, if you have a client who comes to you just like a basket full of like anxiety, maybe they're suffering with other mental illness, who knows, like they they've maybe gone through something traumatic, most of what they tell you is probably going to be just negative, right?

So if they tell you— so the question is, if someone comes to you with a lot of anxiety, a basketful of things, they all will.

They don't—

we're the last stop, guys. We're the last place to go. And I've always been told, you know, if they say, you're my last hope, you say, well, I don't want to be your next not winner. I always say, you found me at last, amazing. 'You must be in my soul group,' right? So literally, they're going to be full of the not great feelings, and they can't stay in anxiety if they're imagining a happy ending. So you actually have 4 major emotions: anger, sadness, fear, guilt, and they're in that order. We're going to do emotions a lot later. Anxiety is a different emotion, it's a future-based emotion, it hasn't happened yet, okay? And the reason people get anxious is they can't see the happy ending. Well, she's got the happy ending. Look at her face. She's like, "I've got the happy ending, all right." Really feeling good. You actually, literally, anxiety will disappear the second you actually future pace. It's called future pacing. So if you take someone to a good place, so think about stage fright. If someone is afraid of going on the stage, where it actually happens is before you go on the stage. So what will happen is they'll be like, "Oh my gosh, I'm going on the stage, they're going to laugh at me, they're ahh," like this. And then you go on the stage, kind of left ear, and stand there and say, "Hello everybody." And of course everybody does exactly what you predicted. What we'll do then is we will take them actually in a different direction and not even go there. We take them to the front of the stage and say, "Thank you for being here, I've had an amazing time, I'm so glad you love my speech." And we get everybody to cheer and to say how amazing it is. And clapping, and I get people to come up and say, "You've changed my life, thank you so much," you know, really lay it on thick. So when they think about going on the stage, this no longer counts, and all they remember is feeling great about the experience. So you'll say, "Where's the stage right now?" And they'll say, "There is none, I feel great." Okay, so yeah, and anxiety is something which is very easy to clear as long as you know to just future-pace them. Well, you're gonna learn all about that. Awesome. So anything else? Is there anything else you do with that fabulous money? How much do you charge per client?

I charge $150 a session.

$150 a session, awesome.

And how many times do you see people on average?

4 times a week.

Wow, you're making really good money then. What happens is when people think about being rich, it's very non-concrete. If you think about the money that you're earning according to how many people you need to see a week. So if Stephanie is seeing 2 people a day for 5 days, how much is she earning in a week? $300 a day, $1,500 for 2 or 3 hours work a day. It, it's really good money when you actually put it like that, all right? She can do a 1-day class on a Saturday for weight release or for stress release. You wouldn't say relaxation because people don't relate to relaxation. Use their language and then you bring them into, to our world. It's called pacing and leading. You join their world with stress release and then bring them into relaxation day.

Good.

So very interestingly, if you can actually work out how many people a week you need to see, it's a far easier way to earn more money. If you have an amount in your head, it doesn't mean anything, it's too chunked up.

Yes, Nick? Is it feasible to go to people's houses and do it, or is it preferable to have them in your own home?

The question is, is it good to go to their houses? I'm okay with that. If they're local, I'll go around there. I used to, years ago. I don't do that now. They can come to your place. I don't recommend that you start out in an office. Start out working from home. It's the best place if you've got a little area of your home, even like a little area in your front room where you can just close the door and work with people.

The other— you obviously have a wonderful hand and you can keep up with it. I'm a horrible stenographer.

So you don't write very well?

Yeah, I mean, I'll be like telling people, you know, stop.

You just say— literally just do it like that. Stop, this is gold. I want to write it all down.

Can we use a laptop?

You can use a laptop. You can type it for sure. 100%, yeah, type even better. I'm quicker, I think. So, I might go into a lot more detail, I might, you know, we've got a couple of nice pages here, okay? So, how would everybody like to be hypnotized? Yes, please.

Yay!

They're like, "Yes!" So what's going to happen is, I'm going to say, let's do the hypnosis, and we're going to include all her beautiful suggestions in the hypnosis. That's where, when it says suggestions goes here, we're going to include— yes, exactly. No, I'm just— I'm just going to say a little bit. That's an interesting point. So when, when I say what's he like, his unconscious mind will do what's called— it'll replace the referential index. So he'll put his love of his life, his female love of his life, in the place of the man, unconsciously. It will happen automatically.

Okay?

So even though you're listening to me talking about him, your unconscious mind will relate to your wife. Get it? So it's very interesting how it just pops over. Good?

Awesome. Okay.

So we— see what she did? Immediately. Everybody does it. I can't let her do that because she took the session over. And what happens is when you allow the client to take the session over, you don't get the best results. It needs to be me in charge of this session. You're in charge of your state, you're in charge of going into hypnosis. My job is to be in charge of the session. I need to keep it within my parameters, okay?

So when that happens, how do you break it?

When that happens, go ahead and close your eyes like you did. I'll say, awesome, I'll just say, open your eyes, Stephanie. You have beautiful eyes, did you know that? Go ahead and close your eyes now. That's it. Now she's doing what I'm telling her to do as opposed to what she wants to do herself.

Cool?

So everybody sit back, relax, and close your eyes, please. Good. Take a few deep breaths and let your body settle into a comfortable, easy position. Allowing gravity to take over. Your arms and hands, your feet and legs rest peacefully, and you feel wonderful, totally supported. As you breathe deeply, exhale and simply let go. Allow the muscles of your face to soften. Let your scalp unwind and relax. Feel your eyelids get heavy. Just allow them to soften. That's right. So soft and peaceful, knowing that you are in charge and you are in control. Your entire body now comfortable and relaxed. As your shoulders settle and your hips and back simply rest, allowing the stillness to sink in. Stillness and relaxation flow into every muscle and fibre, every cell. The whole of your beautiful body now comfortable and relaxed. With every breath, with every beat of your heart, your unconscious mind takes you to a deeper level of relaxation and healing. And now slide your awareness throughout your body. Simply think about your various body parts. Just appreciate and relax each body part. Simply let go. And perhaps you can move your awareness down into your feet, noticing them and thinking about them, allowing them to relax now. As you move your awareness up into the shins and the calves, Now thinking about your knees and your thighs, setting them free. And now thinking about your hips and your buttocks, relaxing and releasing, simply letting go. Very good. Moving your awareness up into the lower abdomen and lower back, breathing deeply and letting go. Softening and relaxing all the muscles in these areas. Feeling completely safe and at ease. Up into the spine and upper abdomen. Simply noticing the muscles here and allowing them to get so comfortable and relaxed. Notice your chest and how it rises and falls with each breath so easily and naturally. And now slide your awareness into your shoulders, just thinking about your shoulders and letting them relax and be still. Gravity pulling them into a comfortable position. Now moving the awareness down through your arms and into your hands, relaxing them as they find a natural and easy position to rest. Moving your awareness now into your neck and into your jaw and face, allowing your lower jaw to relax and your teeth to seperate. Your tongue now soft and relaxed, and your face and eyes gently softening, perhaps feeling warm and heavy, easing even more deeply into relaxation. And as you hear the sound of the phone in the background, anytime you hear a phone in the future, it reminds you that your unconscious mind is bringing you prosperity, freedom, and joy right now, giving you the message that you are beautiful. Imagine now, if you'd like to, simply float down to your deepest level of relaxation, floating and drifting, safe and comfortable, perhaps floating down on a feather-soft cloud or a cushion of air. Drifting, dreaming, drifting all the way down to your deepest possible level of relaxation. Relaxing now still deeper and deeper. And I'm going to let you rest for a moment, and when you hear my voice again, you continue to go even deeper and deeper. Calm, peaceful, and relaxed. Imagine yourself simply breathing deeper, drifting, and even deeper. And just continuing to go deeper now. I want you to see yourself standing at the head of a beautiful flight of 10 stairs. You're going to go down those stairs now as I count backwards from 10 to 0. Each number will take you deeper, deeper, and even deeper. 10, take that first step down. 9, deeper, and deeper. 8, way down now. 7, deeper and even deeper. 6, even deeper, feeling very relaxed now. 5, deeper, deeper. 4, 3, going deeper still. And 2, deeper and deeper, feeling very calm. One. And at the next number, you enter this beautiful place of peace and tranquility called deep, deep hypnosis, more relaxed and peaceful than you've ever known yourself to be. Turning the pages on the past now. It's amazing. It's been a wonderful year of self-growth with lots of self-love. You are wealthy. You are thinking beautifully and taking on more clients. You're really happy in your job. You really feel great. You're coming and bringing into a 6-figure salary. You're wealthy. You are investing in yourself and in real estate, and you're using that money to make return on investments amazingly. You enjoy your money. You travel. You've designed your own home so that it's wonderful and like a vacation home. You go on vacation. Every month you literally go to Italy, to Spain, to Australia, South Africa with the love of your life who earns lots of money, tall and handsome, and more importantly, who loves to grow, very interested in the work you do. He coaches people in his field and he helps develop himself and others. And you are ready to go forward to 2023 when you absolutely get married and feel wonderful and at peace. When you meet him, you feel calm, happy, healthy, excited. He thinks you're exquisite. He's enamoured. He can't wait to get home at night just to see you, and you share a love for nature, for hiking, for cooking and meditating. You're a sociable couple and you really enjoy hanging out with like-minded friends, people who think just like you. That money allows you to be more adventurous and free, and you're enjoying new opportunities, seeing new places and enjoying new things. You give back to others, people who've had anxiety, and charging a £150 session £4 a session, 4 times a week, makes you realise you are having a wonderful year. You're having self-growth and lots of self-love. You're wealthy, you're well, you're thinking and taking on more clients and really happy in your job. You really feel great. You're coming into a 6-figure salary full of wealth and you're investing in yourself and investing in real estate. You use that money to return investments on investments and you enjoy that money travelling, designing your home so it's like a permanent holiday home, and vacations you take to Italy, to Spain, to Australia, to South Africa, and you're with the love of your life who also earns a lot of money. Coaching. He's tall and handsome, and more importantly, he loves to grow. He's very interested in the work you do. He coaches people in his field, and he helps to develop himself and others. And in 2023, when you marry, you feel at peace. When you met the love of your life, you feel calm and healthy, happy and excited. He thinks you're exquisite. He's enamoured.

He can't wait to get home at night just to see you.

And you share a love for nature. You're hiking and cooking and meditating together. You're a social couple and you really enjoy hanging out with like-minded friends. And money allows you to be far more adventurous and free. You enjoy new opportunities see new places and enjoy new things. You give back to others through your work. People have had anxiety in the past and you charge $150 a session for 4 times a week and you make a difference. You leave your mark on the world just as you always wanted to do. That's right. And as you come back now into the body, turning the pages on the flat past, going deeper and deeper into relaxation now. 5, 4, 3, 2, and 1. Feeling wonderful. I'm going to count down from 5 to 1. 5, 4, stretching. 3, more awake now. 2, and coming back into the room, open your eyes, wide awake, feeling wonderful, as though you've just had the best night's sleep. Welcome back.

And you'll feel very soporific around now. Good. Who felt like they were drifting in and out sometimes? Yes, a couple of you went deep straight away. That's really good on the first time hypnosis, amazing. You actually might feel like you're falling asleep and you're not falling asleep. What's happening is you're going into theta. It's a, it's a different place. It's actually a place where you actually go into from alpha. Alpha is the normal meditation place. Theta is the deep hypnosis where you can really do some wonderful healing.

Okay, fantastic.

In fact, let's go back and talk about that. I think we missed that out. Thank you, Stephanie.

How are you feeling? Really good.

Really good, exactly.

There's another phone ringing now.

Oh, interesting. Notice I used the phone ringing as a prompt. I actually realized I hadn't unplugged it, and instead of going, "Oh my God, look at the phone, listen to the phone," I literally said, "It's a message from your unconscious mind." the doorbell will ring, all sorts of things are going to happen, guys. You, you can't stop the world going around, and why would you? It's very important that you, you utilize that, all the things that happen in the hypnosis itself. Yes, this is your book. Thank you so much. Good job. She's got all her suggestions. She can go home and she can actually read those into her phone and actually read that same thing, read it into her phone, so can listen to herself. The very first hypnosis training I did, I rushed home. In those days there were little cassette recorders, and I literally wrote into— I read my script and then I read into the tape recorder, "You are amazing, you are slim, you are happy, you are healthy, you look in a mirror and you look fantastic." And literally I suddenly started doing that, and then people were saying, "Why don't you make these into CDs? Why don't you make them into DVDs?" or into MP3s. So I started writing scripts, and once I'd written one or two scripts, it flows really easily once you've actually got a handle on that.