Evan Sanchez identifies five traits shared by parents of struggling young adults: they're high-achieving but exhausted, their communication doesn't land, they believe change is possible, they feel invisible despite trying interventions, and they're ready to lead differently. He frames these as both a diagnosis and a starting point for change.
People often ask me, "Hey Evan Sanchez Sanchez, who do you work with?" Great question. I'm so glad you asked. So I work with parents who have young adults who are struggling to find their footing. They've tried a lot of things and nothing seems to work. They just can't break through that wall of resistance with their young adult and they're grasping at straws and don't know where to turn. So most of the parents I work with, I I've found that they have 5 traits in common. The first one is that they are super high achieving, but exhausted. They're exhausted because they just can't seem to reach their young adult. They can't seem to solve the problem of how to motivate their young adult to go to the next phase. And this is very frustrating and they beat themselves up for it. And the second trait that I really find is that their communication is just broken. They're trying to reach out to their young adult, but whatever they're sending out is not being received. The third is that they value growth and self-awareness. They need to be self-aware of themselves, and they need to understand that growth is possible for the young adult. These are things that they believe in. They know that their young adult has made strides in the past and don't understand how it's not happening now. But they know that it's possible. And they're not looking for quick fixes. They understand that this took years to develop, so it may take a while to get out of it. And the fourth trait they all have in common is that they just feel invisible to whatever they try to do. No matter if they get them a career coach, or if they get them therapy, or if they give them advice, whatever they're doing is not working. And the fifth trait I find is that they are ready to lead differently. They understand that they're going to have to do some internal work and that it may not be comfortable. It's going to take effort and discipline to get this done. But they do understand that if they do lead differently, that they will get different results. So those are the 5 traits that I most commonly see in parents. If this sounds like your situation, or if it sounds like a situation of someone you know, please have them reach out to me. I want to know what's happening and see if coaching is the right fit. So that's the video for today, and I'll see you in the next one. Thanks.
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