In this short advice video, the speaker addresses parents of adult children who stay in their rooms and sleep late, describing the behavior as a flipped sleep schedule driven by avoidance, numbness, and overwhelm from too many choices. The core recommendation is to focus on fostering connection rather than trying to fix behavior directly. The speaker suggests low‑pressure invitations—such as asking to go for a walk or have dinner—while explicitly stating that the parent’s role is to listen without an agenda. The video ends with a call to follow for more tips.
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My adult child just stays in his room all day long and doesn't wake up till like 2 or 3 o'clock. What do I do? This is a question I get all the time, and let me assure you, you are not alone. There are so many kids with a flipped sleep schedule, and what's happening is they're avoiding, they're numbing. They don't want to deal with the outside world, and they don't know what to do. They're overwhelmed with the amount of choices that they have. So what do you do if you're the parent? Well, here's one thing you can do. First of all, you need to realize that they need to connect. That's what they actually need right now— connection. And you can just say, listen, I really miss you and I miss talking to you. Would you be open to going for a walk sometime? Or you could try something like, realize we haven't talked in a while. And that's on me. Would you like to go out to dinner sometime? Phrases like that can really help open a child up. Again, you want to make sure you don't have an agenda in this. You're not there to talk to them. You're there to listen and ask questions. And if you want more tips like this, follow me for more.
