Evan Sanchez shares a boundary phrase for parents supporting disrespectful adult children: "How am I supposed to support you financially when you are treating me with disrespect?" It links money to behavior without threatening, letting the child see the connection themselves.
So how do you handle it when you're funding your adult child's lifestyle and they are disrespecting you? For those of you who don't know me, my name is Evan Sanchez. I'm the founder of New Grad Launchpad, and what I do is I help parents navigate these tough situations with their adult children. So we've come across the situation where the adult child is disrespecting the adult. So the phrase I want you to remember is, "How am I supposed to support you financially when you are treating me with disrespect?" And there's a reason why this works. The reason is, is because they see a separation between the money that you're giving them and the behavior that they're exhibiting. And what you want to do is tie those more closely together. And this is not a threat. You're not saying like, "If you don't treat me right, I'm going to cut you off completely," because threats don't work. Instead, you're saying, "Help me understand how this relationship is supposed to work." This gives them responsibility without putting them in a corner.
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