Adult children who seem lazy often face anxiety about wrong choices, misaligned values, and decision fatigue. Parents asking "What do you need right now?" instead of "What's wrong with you?" can shift the dynamic and open real change.
Welcome to part 4 of this video series. In today's video, I want to talk about what's really happening when your adult child seems lazy or unmotivated. It's easy to see that they're just not working hard enough. They're not trying. They're not putting their best foot forward. But what's really happening to them is they're feeling disconnected. And here's the reason why they are disconnected. First of all, they're feeling a tremendous amount of anxiety. They're worried about making the wrong choice. The second problem that they're having is they're really feeling misaligned between their values and the available paths. They just don't see them matching up. And the third thing is they have decision fatigue. They're overwhelmed by the amount of choices, and that's why they appear lazy and unmotivated. So what's really happening here is that they have a lot of processing that they need to do. They're so overwhelmed and have so much anxiety and are so misaligned, they can't see a clear path. So with all of this going on, We need to stop asking, "Hey, what's wrong with you?" What we need to do instead is we need to start asking, "What do you need right now?" And that changes everything. So I hope you found this helpful. In the next video, I want to talk about the parenting shift that changes everything with adult children. So stay tuned and I'll see you in the next video.
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