Someone in their twenties is paralyzed by too many choices: jobs, cities, moving abroad, relationships. The advice: write a letter to your future self to clarify what you actually want, then treat your choices as experiments to see what drains you and what gives energy.
So I've just finished work from one of my part-time jobs because I decided to go on a career break and get two part-time jobs. And honestly, at the moment, all I'm thinking is, if I've got two part-time jobs, I may as well go back to corporate. So every day I'm applying to at least five full-time corporate jobs in London, in Manchester, in Leeds. Then I'm confused about which city I want to live in. And then it's like, okay, well, if I'm gonna move city, then I may as well just move abroad. And then I'm like, if I'm gonna move abroad, then I may as well go traveling. And it's like, cool, let's just in the savings, go traveling. But then I'm on Rightmove every day looking at houses to buy because it's like, if I've got the savings, then I may as well buy a house. But I thought in our 20s, this is a flat sharing era, so shouldn't I just be sharing a flat with people? To be honest, the list goes on and on into romantic relationships, so many other things. But I just think the 20s is a really confusing time, and just every day I just don't know what to do.
I so agree with her. The 20s is a really confusing time, and it's hard to know what to do. But one of the things really stuck out to me that she said, she said, aren't I supposed to be apartment sharing with a bunch of other roommates? No, you're not, because if you're asking that question, you're not listening to your intuition. Her intuition is correct. Should she travel? Yes, absolutely. What I would recommend that she does is to write a letter from her future self to her current self, assuming everything went well. And that's going to answer a lot of questions, and she may have to do this more than once. But should she travel? Yes, because that's going to get her data. She may find that it's really lonely, and that's not good for her. She may really enjoy it, and that is good for her. What she has to do is she has to experiment and figure out what's draining her and what's energizing her. And when she figures out those two things, she'll be on the right path. But it is going to take some experimentation, and it is going
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