Why You College Grad Is Angry

Okay, here's the deal. Your college grad is angry, but they have nowhere to direct the anger. Think about it. They can be mad at the economy. That's too abstract. They can be mad at companies for not calling them back, but they really don't have anywhere to direct that anger. They end up directing it at you, and you don't want to be on the receiving end of that. A lot of parents end up being the rescuer or the critic. They rescue them by sending them job listings, by writing their cover letters for them, by trying to network for them. The critic is the one who says, what have you done lately? Why aren't you further along? And both of those roles, terrible places to be, and you don't want either one of those. What you want is you want to be their guide. You want to look at this as a project that you're working on together. You need to figure out what their values are, what's important to them. What they want to do, not what you want them to do, what they want to do. And you have to ask curiosity questions, usually what or how does it— what would a simple next step look like? How would you go about that? These types of questions that don't have an agenda are very, very powerful. Why? Because they help them think for themselves. They are only going to do what they want to do. Not what you want them to do. So they have to come up with their own solutions, and this is a muscle they need to build. So that's the tip for today. Please follow me for more.