A short YouTube advice clip by Francisco Javier Ortega emphasizing that divorced parents should prioritize their children’s emotional experiences over concerns about what kids will 'think' about the divorce. The speaker urges parents to focus on making children feel seen, heard, and enough, and warns that parents’ untreated mental-health struggles (depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation) can compound children’s losses.
Stop worrying so much about what your kids think about the divorce and worry about the emotions that they're experiencing through this process. Kids don't remember what they went through. They remember their experience about what they went through. Just like you, it's all about the emotions that you experience during that event. So the question we need to ask ourselves is how am I making them feel? How am I helping them feel? Are you helping them feel seen? Are you helping them feel heard? Are you helping them feel like they are enough? Or your actions because you're unwilling to deal with the healing that you need to do to overcome this? Are your actions telling them they didn't just lose the family setting, but they're also losing their dad? They're also losing their mom to depression, to anxiety, to suicidal ideation.
