Get over a divorce FAST! (For men)
17 Jul 2021 · 2 min
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A coach tells men to stop hoping the marriage will work and redirect that energy toward yourself instead. You can't control your ex, but you can build a better life and find someone new.
A coach tells men to stop hoping the marriage will work and redirect that energy toward yourself instead. You can't control your ex, but you can build a better life and find someone new.
The first thing you have to do is give up hope and attach that hope to something new. You've got to give up hope 100%. Now, the Bible does say that hope deferred makes the heart sick. Now, I know that sounds kind of bad at first glance, right? Give up hope. Because hope is really all we have. But really what we need to think about is not just giving up hope, but reattaching our hope. Because hope attaches itself to something, right? So you have to give up hope in that marriage. You have to give up hope in that person. You have to stop thinking, what if they change, right? What if this happens? To work out all of those what if questions? You have to kill them. Because guess what? You cannot control that other person's actions. You cannot control for them to come back. And true love. True love does not hold on and cripple and imprison things, right? True love loves freely. If it wants to stay, it will. And if it doesn't, it's free to go. That is true love. So if you genuinely want to love the person that's divorcing you, or if.
You genuinely want to love yourself, the.
First thing you have to do is give up hope and attach that hope to something new. Attach that hope to the feeling that I will get better. Attach that hope to the feeling of I, I am going to grow as a person. Attach that hope to the feeling of your future, right? That I will have a successful marriage, I will have a family again, and I will have a thriving life, and I will live a fulfilling life. Your hope will hold on to whatever.
It is that you attach it to.
So it's up to you to choose what you want to put that hope in. And the first thing you have to do, you cannot move forward until you do this. This is one of the things that.
I tell my clients.
If you keep holding on to hope.
You could do all of these exercises and you will get nowhere.
Six years down the line, you could.
Be in a committed relationship with somebody else.
But if there's still that little glimpse.
Of hope for that other person, it's going to do you absolutely no good. And you might even end up ruining something great because you never let go of hope.
