Take Control of Your Life After Divorce: Sam's Inspiring Success Story

Hey, welcome back to the channel. Today I got an incredible story for you. It is a testimonial of a client that I got to work with, one on one, who's just really becoming a brother, and I'm super, super proud of him. The reason why I want to share this, this testimonial, this powerful testimonial is because the Bible talks about how there is power in our testimony, and it's so true because it'll give you the faith to keep going and the hope to see what's attainable for you as well. And his story is so incredible because he was married for a while and he'll tell you a little bit about it. But where he was when we first met to where he is, where he was in 45 days after us starting to work together, and him learning the tools and the strategies is just completely different. And I think it's really going to encourage you and show you that healing doesn't have to take a long time, because it's not about the time, it's about what you do with the time. Just like going to the gym, it's not about how long you're in the gym. It's how long your muscles are experiencing resistance. There's a lot of people we know when we go to the gym, they're just walking around, playing around, and they don't really lift much. But then there's people that come in for 30 minutes and they just go, ham. And they get even more results. And so, without further ado, I want to introduce you guys to my brother Samuel. What's going on, Samuel?

What's up, my man? How are you doing?

Awesome, brother. Even better now that I get to talk to you.

Bro.

Yes, sir. Bro. So let's kick this off with. Where were you the first time when we, when we first met, where was Samuel?

That's a good question. I don't even know. I was probably in my darkest, in the darkest place I've ever been in my life, if I'm being completely honest with you. I remember on our, you know, you mentioned within 45 days that I, I, you know, I was pretty much better at that point, but honestly, it was probably a lot less than that. But our first, I remember our first call, like our first consultation call, you were just kind of going through the, you know, going through the process of asking me what my situation is, and I, I, I barely could even get the words out because I was just a complete emotional mess at that point. And I remember at the end of the call, you said, you know, I'm really excited for you, Sam, because within 90 days you're going to be a different man. And we, I, you know, I'm, I was a little bit skeptical. I hung up that phone call. I'm like, he has no idea what kind of mess I'm in. None. And, and here we are actually less than 45 days because that wasn't even the first day we started to work together. That was just our first consultation call. So it's probably closer to, you know, maybe just over 30. Maybe, you know, I think somewhere between that 30 and 45. But it's been incredible, an incredible journey of, of really becoming a brand new person, a healed person.

Man, bro, I love that. I love that so much because it's so true. I remember we were having one of our sessions and you were like, man, it's been like, it's been like not even like two weeks because I just moved into my apartment and we met with this. Like, you literally had the dates all you were like, it just seemed impossible to, to get you there. Right. So what do you think? What do you think was missing, brother? Because you're. This is, this is why, like, I love working with entrepreneurs because you have the same mindset that I have where it's just we're going to go after and we're going to put in the work and we're going to get the results right. And that's exactly what you did. But that doesn't mean that you weren't trying before me and you started working together. So what do you believe was different from what you were doing to what we did together?

I think that I was just going through the motions of waiting for time to over to heal me versus when you came into my life. You had a plan and you said, this is the way that we're going to get, get through this together. And knowing that I had somebody by my side, you. Right. It just made it that much, that much. I don't want to say easier, but knowing that I had somebody that had, that was going to have my back, when I would have moments of weakness, when I had moments of like, hey, you know what I actually had, you know, I overcame something today and being able to celebrate, celebrate and also be there for me when moments were hard because it was kind of that roller coaster ride. Sometimes things were good, sometimes days were bad, and you were always there. And I think that was the biggest thing was always being able to have somebody that, that had my back, man.

I love that because it's so true. Community is one of the biggest things. Like most people when. When they go through this, I get a lot of people who are like, ah, I really just want me and you to work together. Right? But I'm like, you have no idea the community aspect too, because you were even in those men calls, like, which was way past, way past your bedtime. But in those men's calls, you were so interactive. You were like, bringing things to the table.

Well, what.

What did the aspect of community do for you through this process?

That's a great point, because the aspect of community gave me answers to questions that I didn't have at that point of. Of my life. So I remember there was one, you know, one of the members in the group, he was just talking about an experience, and I hadn't gone to that. That part yet, right In.

In.

In the separation and the divorce process. So when I hit that point, I already had the answers. I sort of already knew what to expect. But I, had I not been part of that call or part of the group, you know, that would have been something I would have missed. It would have been a new thing that maybe you and I would have had to, like, figure out or, you know, so being part of the community and hearing other people's journey and. And the. And the pain that they went through was almost comforting for me because I felt like I also wasn't alone. I felt like every, you know, every Monday and every Wednesday when we had these calls, I remember telling you, I was like, I feel like, you know, every Monday and Wednesday was so exciting for me because it was like I was hanging out with a bunch of friends. It gave me something to look forward to. Even though it was way past my bedtime because of my time zone. It just felt. It felt great to meet with. With friends.

Lero, that's so good. Isn't that wild, how God works, man? Yeah, like how God uses all of this to be able to bring, like, people together, individuals that, you know, once we start having, once we do our live event later this year, like, if you come, you'll get to meet some of those people in person. And from the first live event that I did, something I've noticed is those people are like this now, like this, because you've experienced vulnerable moments together, and vulnerability breeds connection, right? But what's awesome, what's also awesome, is what you were talking about between me and you. Like, we could. I could celebrate you, and that's a safe place to actually be. Like, I feel like a beast right now. Because I did this. And no one's going to be like, hey, you're being prideful. You need to humble yourself. It's like, no, bro. Yes, yes. That's who you are. You should feel that way. Let's continue that momentum. So community is like a huge, huge, huge thing. What would you say, brother, through our process, working together was like one of the tools that you believe really, really helped you out the most?

If I'm being honest with you, it wasn't just any one thing, right? I think it was an accumulation of it all. I don't think that, you know, it was just, you know, you recommending that I read the Bible. It was the Bible and the recommendation to also pray and to also be. To also be grateful if I. I guess I'm now backpedaling here because I guess if there was one thing that, that made me, one thing that that kind of stood out was like, just be. Have more gratitude towards the things that I do have in my life rather than things that I don't have in my life. You know, I was so hyper focused on, man, I miss my wife. I no longer have this sense of purpose. I no longer have this sense of family. I no longer have this or that, this. But yet I had all these other incredible things that came into my life as a result of the separation. New friends, a new relation, a newfound relationship with God. Right. I had. There have been years where I completely lost my faith, where I didn't pray, where I kind of felt like maybe he's not even real, but yet new things came into my life and he showed me that he is real. And so it was all the new things that really came into my life as a result of that and not focusing on what I lost because it was just one little aspect of something I lost and I had gained so much.

Bro, that's beautiful. I was just talking about that on a live where you don't need a blessing two years from now. Like, you know, a lot of people tell you, like, you're going to look back at this and you're going to be grateful that you went through it. Well, I don't want to look back at this in two years. I don't have that time. I need something now. I need something now. And I remember it was. It was a moment. I remember it just clicked for you. It was the tool of focus when I showed you how to use your brain instead of letting it use you. And it was by, are you looking for brown or are you looking for blue? You remember that exercise.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

And it was like, that was the moment I feel like you started being able to find blessings in today, not in tomorrow, not in hopefully in the future, but finding the blessings in today. Was that different for you? Because I know you had been wanting and hoping for good things to happen, but what was the experience from going from I can't wait for something good to happen to wow, good things are happening. I was just blinded to them.

Yeah, I mean, there were so many examples of that. I mean, you know, just sitting across the table and having a bowl of cereal right before bed with my daughter, right? And you know, she's looking to my eyes, I'm looking into her eyes, and had it not been for this, for the situation, I wouldn't have had this one on one experience with her. And now I have more of that with her. I'm much more connected, much more present than ever before. Not that I was ever a bad father because everybody, you know, a lot of my friends always said, man, you're such an amazing dad. But now it's like, now it's next level, right? I remember, I. I'll share this. Do you. I don't know if you remember this or not, but early on I remember having to stop somewhere on my commute back home. I had to stop at a Home Depot. And typically I was like, always in a rush because, like, you know, my wife would want me to like, check in, where are you? You know, like, it was kind of one of those things. And for the first time, I didn't have to check in with anybody. So I'm walking out of the home, out of my car, going into the Home Depot, and I stopped and I, I said, what am I rushing for? It's like I, I have nobody to. And just as I was thinking about that, I remember I see this, like, beautiful flock of birds, you know, flying in like a formation. And I just looked at that and it made me tear up because I'm like, man, this is something that I believe that God was showing me. He was saying, like, look at the beauty around you. And had I not gone through that, you know, gone through this, I would have missed out on that little small thing. And that really set me up for everything. Like, enjoying what God has given you today, what, what you have right now.

In your life, bro, that's so good. That is. Not many people operate out of that, man. Like, it, it's. It sucks to admit, but not everyone will get to experience what you're experiencing right now.

I'm experiencing that now, after 42, I'm gonna be 42 in. In a month. So for 40 years, 40 plus years of my life, I didn't experience that. It's not until now. So imagine I would have not got, like, she did me a favor because now I'm experiencing so much more happiness. Let's listen. You know, there are still times where I think back at the past, but I remember of all the things that. That were not good in the relationship. Right. And I. And I choose to focus on those things rather than focusing on my. This idea that things were better than they really were. Which is. Which is really just made up stuff in my mind.

Yeah, yeah, exactly. And what that does is it keeps empowering. That's the thing.

It's.

It's a quote that I always say, and that is that life happens on its terms, but it's experienced on your terms. And you've developed that now. You've literally. Because I can almost promise you that's just who you are now, isn't it?

Yeah. It's funny because, you know, everybody now that's. That's been in my life or has come into my life. They. They all say the same thing, like, wow, Sam, like, you seem so much more happier. And this. This is not like, you know, I know this is a. A testimonial, but it's not. This is for real. Like, I have people that have no idea that I'm going through some sort of coaching thing. Some do. But they all universally, even new people that have come in, they're like, you just radiate happiness. And it's like, it's. It makes me happy to be around you. And I'm like, I didn't even realize I was like, re. You know, that happy around these people. But it's. When I look back, I'm like, yeah, you know, I do feel freaking happy. Like, it's. It's amazing. It really is.

Yeah. Yeah, it is. That's why you're attracting so many things into your life. We won't get into that right now, but that's why you're attracting so many things into your life right now at such a quick pace, bro. So. So we can end this off, brother. Let's fast forward to where you're at today. Where is Sam today? And if you could speak to somebody who's where you were, because the people that are listening to this, they are where you were. Where if they got on a call with me, they would be breaking down on that call. They would not be able to Put the words out that they want to say because they're crippled with emotion, negative emotion, with anxiety, with all these crippling thoughts. Right. Of their potential future, the fear of the future to that person. Now that you're on the other side, that you've done the work, that you learn, there is a. There is a science to this. Now, what would you say to that individual to give them some hope?

I would have. I would say have the faith and trust the process. Trust that, you know what if you. If you go through this or you don't have to go through this alone. Right. There are other. There are other people that are going through exactly the thing that you're going through right now. And you could either continue down the path that you are right now and hopefully it does get better, or you can follow Frank's method, which has worked for me. And again, I was very, very skeptical, but it worked for me and so many others that have been on the group that I've, you know, become friends with. And you can get out of this sooner than you think.

How good does it feel to get out of this sooner than you think?

For me?

Yeah.

I mean, dude, like, I. Again, I. You know, our first call, I couldn't even tell people my story. I couldn't even tell you the story without breaking down. And now I'm at a place where I could tell it and I could actually laugh at it. Yeah, I can. You know, I can, like, say, all right, well, you know, I could see the beauty in. In. In the darkness. Right. I've. I've. I've been able to reach the light, and I've been able to reach a place where, to me, it's just so amazing because I. I never thought that I would get her, but I had the faith and process, and I just said I'm gonna. I. I have to do something. I can't continue down this path because it's just going to be completely destructive to myself, my business, my family, and everything else going on in my life.

Yeah. Yeah. And now it's just on to building bigger and better, brother. And you're going to be able to do so, man. For real.

You know what's the most exciting part, Frank, is that, like, I'm. I'm this happy, and I'm this. I'm at this place now within, let's just say 45 days, so we can put a, you know, final number on it, even though we said it's sooner than that. But imagine where I'll be in 90 days from now. Yeah, imagine I'll be in a 120 and then a year from now. It's exciting.

Yeah.

I've got a new lease on life. Yes.

Yes, you do, brother. And you created that, bro. You created that. I'm telling you. There's so many Christians who say, man, I just believe that God's gonna this and this and that, but the Bible says that faith without works is dead. So if you don't do the work, you're not really believing that he can transform your life. And you said, God, I believe. And because of that belief, I'm gonna trust the process. And that's why your faith has brought you blessing, and it's going to continue to bring you blessing, bro. I'm telling you. That's why you radiate what you radiate. People say it's joy and happiness. That's the Holy Spirit. That's. It's your. Your spirit, man. Came to life because before this, you were living out of your head. Now you're living out of here, and that's why you're experiencing the life you're experiencing. And that's why everyone who comes in contact with you is experiencing life differently when they're around you. You carry that aura, brother. And I'm so proud of you, brother. I'm so happy for you, for real. Thank you so much for coming on here and sharing your story.

Thank you for. For having me, and I appreciate you being there for me every second of the way.

Of course, brother. Of course, brother. Hey, Conqueror, thanks so much for watching that testimonial. I really hope that it inspired you and that it spoke to you and gave you a little bit of hope of what's possible in your life as well. I'm telling you, there is a proven science to this now, and people are starting to catch it. And when we're willing to learn the tools and learn the strategies, we can get the same results. As someone like my brother Sam, I've helped hundreds of men and women now get through this, and I cannot wait to help thousands. So if you love this type of content, you feel like this is something that speaks to you and that you want to be a part of, then go ahead and subscribe to the channel. I would be honored to have you as part of the Conquerors community, and I'll see you on the next video.