The best way to get over your ex - Works for divorce too!

I want to be extremely honest with you. This video is probably going to really piss you off. It's going to piss you off because I'm about to show you and teach you everything that your therapist, counselor and.

Pastors have failed to teach you.

If you've gone through a divorce and you've gone to all three of those resources for years and you still feel stuck, you might be a little frustrated by the end of this video. I'm just being honest because you didn't know this information and it could have saved you so much time. And you're really going to be frustrated if you believed that time is what was going to heal you from your divorce and now your years down the process and you still feel stuck for some reason and you feel like you.

Should be over it, but you're not.

In this video, I'm going to teach you exactly why you're stuck and how to get unstuck and finally move on from your ex without it taking a lot of time. Okay? So before we jump into this video, I do have to say my name is Frank Ortega. I'm a divorce recovery coach. I'm not a freaking guru. I'm not no crazy expert, nothing like that. You want to know what I am? We're going to keep it very real on this video. So if you're expecting like some really cool editing and music and all this, you're not going to find it here, but you're going to find freedom if you tune in. And instead of being a spectator, you become a participator in your own breakthrough during this video. Okay, I am a coach. I'm going to coach you through this. And I coach people. I've now taken 1,072 people through this process, Right. And help them get freedom from the pain and suffering of their divorce in less than 90 days. OK, so what am I then? Be honest with you. I am just a man who went through the same war that you're going through right now. I went through the same pain that you're experiencing right now. I went through the same suicidal ideation, the same depressing thoughts. I went through losing everything that I had, including my business. I went to not being able to pay for my own house. You're going to hear a little bit more about story here in a little bit, but I'm that exact same person. So if you can relate with that, I want you to know I am you. I'm not your expert, I'm not your guru. I'm not somebody who thinks that I'm better than you and that I can just come along and fix you, because I didn't even fix me. God fixed me. But guess what? I had to participate in my own rescue.

And so I'm.

I'm proud of you. I want to say that right now, I'm proud of you for being on this video. Right now, I'm proud of you for stepping up and doing something different. Because if you kept doing the same things that you've been doing for the past months or years, you would be insane, because you can't do the same.

Thing over and over and over again and expect new results.

And so on this video, I can't wait to show you everything that I found out that God showed me so that I could finally get over my divorce. And it happened in a short amount of time, if you can. If you do the math.

Okay.

When I share my story with you, you do the math and how fast.

How fast it was and how fast it can be for you, okay?

So in order to create more trust.

With you, though, I want to share something with you.

These right here are some client testimonials. Man. Right here, you got our brother Anthony, okay? Anthony came to me this year.

Obviously, you can see the dates right here.

Anthony literally lost his hairline. And then he grew back. Anthony was stuck. You know what Anthony was doing to heal? Anthony was going to the gym. Anthony was a gym rat.

The dude is huge, okay?

And he was going to the gym, and for some reason, he just felt.

Like, man, I'm still stuck.

And then he came into the program.

You fast forward.

Not even a month later, his hairline came back. And you can even see it in his face. You can see the softness already in.

His face from the difference that happened, even just from the stress and the anxiety that he faced.

Now over here, we got our. Our woman of God, Rebecca, who also, same exact thing, man. She. She tried everything she could.

She. She loves the church.

She was serving in the ministry, teaching, went to counselor, she went to therapist. She tried everything she thought she knew she could do to get over this until she came into the Conqueror's community. And so now you can clearly see the transformation on her page. Now, over here, we got our brother Ash. And I just want you to listen.

To what our brother Ash had to say.

You know, I've gone through so many therapists, and therapy is good, but this is different. Doing this stuff with you guys and doing what coach Frank has put out there and the work and all that, it's just the growth is, you know, you might have, like, four therapy sessions and you feel a little bit better. I know when we hang up, I'm gonna feel a lot better than I did before we got on. And that kind of leap, that growth is what you get out of this. But yeah, Johnny, you're right.

That.

That.

That story was keeping me and holding me back and keeping me a hostage, as you say. And I'm able to start shedding it and realizing that this is what I am.

This is what.

This is what I am. This is what is going on in my life. I'm going to be a single dad, and I'm gonna kill it at being a single dad. And I still have so much life in me to live, and I'm such a better version of myself now than I.

Man, that gets me almost super emotional because Ash came full so filled with anger and resentment. And maybe that's where you're at right now. And he literally just now completed like, 90 days with us. And just last week, he said, man, I gotta be honest with you guys. I don't know how it happened, but I'm no longer thinking about what she's doing, who she's with, or anything like that. And so that's phenomenal.

I'll tell you.

Coach Franklin, I said, I don't know.

Sorry.

Those started playing automatically. So here in the middle, most people think that you got to talk to.

A therapist to get better.

That's not true. You just got to learn what to do and then go out and execute it. And if you execute on it, you don't need to go and talk to a therapist about it. You don't need to talk to me about it. I'm not saying don't. I highly recommend talking to people through things, right? But if you can discover the root of the issue and actually work through it, you don't have to keep having the same conversations over and over and over again expecting a different result. That's what happened with Dolores. You can see it right here. She said, I've been doing all the.

Work these past two days.

The healing workshop, and I did the stop desiring my ex. And I have to say, last night I slept all night compared to weeks of sleepless nights. Maybe that's where you're at right now. You feel like you just can't sleep because you're going through much. Through so much. I promise you, if you do the work, you can get the same results that she did. And this is my brother, Don. Listen to what Don said.

And I said, man, I said, I Don't know what it is about this dude. I don't know what it is about you and not pumping. But I said, man, I just feel better. I said, in. In 10 or 15 times at a counselor, I've gotten more from this dude and three times than I have from. Because it's practical and it's.

You know, it's.

We can work on.

Exactly.

It's actual work.

And then right there, you got Mary. A little testimonial of Mary there. And then over here, Jeffrey. He actually just came into the Conquerors community about three weeks ago now filming this video.

And two weeks ago, he was suicidal.

But just listen to what he had to say.

I'll tell you, Coach Frank, like, I think it was like, two days before I talked to you a couple weeks ago, like, this I legit was at the lowest point of my life ever, man. Like, I literally had the local police at my house doing a welfare check because I was done. And two weeks later, now, like, I can't even tell you how much different I feel already just watching them videos. Like, the X isn't even in my mind. Like, before anything my kids would tell me about her would just trigger me immediately. And it's like, I hate to say I don't care because she is the mother of my children, but it's. It's just totally different in that short amount of time. It's unbelievable.

Wow. Praise God. Yes. Amen.

I'll tell.

I don't have to say anything on that, man.

Hopefully you heard what he said.

Then over here, we got our brother, David Gill. And this guy said, today would have.

Been my 13th wedding anniversary.

Literally didn't phase me one bit. Like, not even a little. Thanks, Coach, for getting me to this place of complete freedom. I'm about to sneeze. Ah, bless me.

Sorry about that.

Then we got a brother, Jonathan, who said, I have to say, honestly, feels like it was super productive, reassuring, and helped me believe we are on the right track. It is a comfortable place that I get the correct information. And I am amazed and excited that somehow God is always in it with us on every call. Everyone is so supportive. This is not how I grew up. And I don't have to be that.

Type of person who puts up a.

Front of what I thought a man.

Was supposed to look and act like.

I can say what I'm feeling, thinking, confused about and get genuine support. Jonathan came in here not being able.

To experience an emotion. He was so numb. And to hear him speaking like that.

Literally gets me emotional. Maria said, I just wanted to say a big thank you to Coach Frank for having that one on call. One call with me on Friday. That day felt as if it was my first day of recovery. I've listened to my first tutorial today about mindset and what can I say? I'm so thankful and grateful of having all the tools I need now to become pain free. Everything makes so much sense now and it's only day one. I'm so grateful that God brought an amazing coach and community in my path. Thank you all so much. Love you, Maria. And then we got Irina. Here's why I wanted to show you guys Irina. Okay. She said, hello, everyone. I'll be going live today at 12pm Pacific Time. The live will be on deception and how to not get deceived. You know why? You know why? I wanted to share that with about Irina real quick. Irina came to me because she came out of a narcissistic, abusive marriage. And on top of that, she got scammed pretty heavily just a little bit later on. She hasn't even been in the community for six months. And she then signed up for my certification program and she is now a certified coach helping women recover from a narcissistic, abusive relationship. This happened all within a year of being separated and getting divorced. Don't tell me time heals all wounds, y'.

All.

It doesn't have to take a long time. You got people like Irina to prove it and you also got people like, where is it?

Sorry, not this one.

You also got people like my brother Samuel. Man, Samuel right here. Nine year marriage healed in 45 days. You can see that video, the whole Testimonial on my YouTube channel. This was a text that I got from, from him. This was three weeks into coaching. He said, bro, tonight has been the best I've ever felt since we started working together, slash, post breakup. The entire day, anytime I would think of my ex and miss us, I would reframe and remind myself what I'm actually giving up. All the negatives. I would then focus that energy into spending time with my daughter or meeting and talking to strangers. I got back to the room this evening. He actually went to vacation with his ex and him and his kids. Right in the middle of his ex not wanting anything to do with him and spending time with another man and dating another man. He, he was on vacation with him still because he had already committed. Most men would be falling apart in that. Most men would be like, I can't believe this is happening to me. We're on vacation and we're getting divorced. Why is this happening? That was Samuel until he learned how to do the work. This is what he said. I got back to the room this evening and I thought to myself, I don't even know who you are. I've never felt like this before. And I just wanted to share that with you. This man went on to heal in 45 days.

Days.

And is now killing it in the dating scene. But I'm not going to share those.

Text messages with you. Okay?

Then we also got Laura, who is a divorced single mom who could not afford the program, so much so that her mom had to pay for the initial two months. And then after that, Laura got so healthy. And you can also watch this full testimonial on YouTube. She got so healthy that she actually started making way more money than her husband made. She got so healthy that she was overpaying me, like, three times the amount every single month. And I was having to refund her and tell her, laura, you're already subscribed. You're already in the community. Like, stop paying more. There's an awesome testimonial for anybody who feels like right now you got no way out. First of all, your family could help.

You find a way.

And then afterwards, you can make so much money because you're a healthiest version of you. Doesn't that just make sense? Doesn't it just make sense that if you step into the best version of yourself, if you aren't clouded by all the crap of your ex anymore, that you might just make more money? That you might just be like Pauline, who lost 58 pounds through this coaching group, Wouldn't it make sense that you would get in the best financial shape, the best physical shape, the best spiritual shape if you started taking care of you right now? That's what happened to Laura, and that's what's available for you?

And now.

This is really cool. I can't even make this up. This is Riley. As I was making the graphics for this video, this is the message I get. He's been in here for one month, 30 days. Maybe like 35 days, bro. Thankful for this program. I have only done a few of the workshops, and it has already been changing me over the last month. I've been curating a fruitful repetition for myself day to day. That means that this tells me that.

He'S doing the fruitful mindset training with his language.

And I've been on fire for the last six weeks. I've also become sober from alcohol and weed, too. Man, come on not just getting over his divorce, but getting free from alcohol and weed also. I never had a problem with drinking, but the mental clarity it has given me, and it also revealed who my true friends were.

Surreal.

That is literally what's happening right now. Now, here's what I want you to expect.

Okay?

What. What are you gonna expect out of this video? You're gonna expect why traditional methods haven't been working for you, why you've tried anything and everything that you can think of or imagine except for this process, and why that's not working for you.

We're gonna.

You're gonna learn why. You're also going to learn what's causing your suffering. I'm going to walk you through what I call the model. I didn't come come up with the model, but I adapted it, and I sure as heck know how to use.

It in a powerful way to transform.

My life and to help people transform their lives as well. So I'm going to teach you that in this video, okay? I'm also going to teach you how you can start feeling better.

Today.

We're going to walk through the three pillars of breakthrough that are used in every single formula so that you can get breakthrough. Whether that's running into your ex, whether that's you get triggered, whether that's. Whether that's the fear of the unknown.

Whether that's your insecurity, these three pillars.

Will be utilized in every step of the process, and it's going to guarantee your breakthrough.

Okay?

Just like it has for 1072 under other individuals.

So why not you?

The last thing that we're going to learn on this video is how to never end up here again.

I bet you.

I bet you really want to see that, right? I bet you really want to learn.

How to not end up here again, right?

So here's the thing, y'.

All.

I know that those are really encouraging.

But I think that in order for you to really trust me, I think.

I got to be a little honest about my story. Okay?

I got to be honest about where.

I was at as well.

Okay? So I'm going to let you in.

On where Frank was at in 2019, okay? Just don't judge me.

This is where I was right here. This image right here that you see with that pink wall, that was the.

Day that my ex ended up leaving.

And I just remember sitting in that.

Room and I took that shot.

I remember sending it to her cousin. And then I remember in this moment.

That'S where I broke down and I hadn't been Spending time with God. Maybe you guys can relate with this moment. I hadn't been spending time with God. I wasn't really reading my Bible.

I wasn't living a life of purpose. I was running a trucking company just because I was trying to make ends meet for the family, right?

And I wanted to, like, get her.

To, like, be able to do the career that she always wanted.

So I sacrificed all of my passion.

I sacrificed all of my purpose so.

That I could just be a freaking provider. And out of all that sacrifice, it brought me to this room right here. This empty room right here. That's where I was at.

Then, as you can tell, I gained a little weight. You can see these chubby old cheeks, right? Gained a little weight. Gained about 45 pounds, man. It was crazy. Went really heavy, got really heavy. Was eating every day, laying in bed, watching YouTube. It was not a good situation. Look, you can see me right here.

Those cheeks, man.

But then you can see here. Got back in shape again.

Hello.

And then here you see an image. This is the picture of my daughter. We're actually standing. We're actually standing in the same spot where I was pretty much sitting down, bawling my eyes out the day that my ex had left. Why? Why? Why? Why? Why this picture?

Why am I showing you this picture?

Because that's me and my daughter breaking.

Ground in the house that I'm in today.

That's me and my daughter breaking ground on the first property that my parents.

Ever purchased, that the Ortega bloodline ever purchased when we were came here to the United States. And here's the thing. There was. There was a marking moment for me on this land. Many marking moments, right?

But one of them was in 2019 when she decided to walk out. Because I never thought that I would go through that. And I'm sure if you're here right.

Now, you thought the exact same thing. And so this picture to me shows.

That for me, it was, oh, yeah, baby. The enemy thought he had me, but I'm. I'm gonna build on top of the crap that he tried throwing at me. I'm gonna tell life what I'm gonna do with it. Life's not gonna tell me what I need to be and how I need to submit just because I go through some pain.

So that's why this picture is so.

So special to me. Ended up going on and building this.

House 100% cash after being heavily indebted.

I'm telling you guys, 2019, 2020, I was about $13,000 in debt just with Child support alone. I couldn't even keep the lights on.

In the mobile home that I lived in. Like, it was a bad situation.

I was having to buy frozen pancakes.

And in order to buy those for my daughter, I was having to, like.

Go out and pawn my crap.

Is the worst situation that I've ever.

Been in because my mental health and my emotional health was so bad. You fast forward here.

You see, this is the first trip that I paid for my parents and.

For my little girl. Took us all to Disneyland, Epcot, specifically because my daughter asked for it. You see, my little girl right here.

We'Re playing Smash Brothers, and she's throwing up a peace sign in her new house. She calls it the. The new new house.

And this right here is actually something I'm really excited about. This is a bunch of individuals. There's actually some in here that you might recognize. This right here is Irina.

Here's Laura.

There's David. And then I think that's it.

Oh, and then over here on this.

Other picture, you got Anthony. These are some of the testimonials that you saw. And what I did was I did my very first ever live meetup where.

People, just some of the Conquerors got.

To fly in over here.

And I'm doing another one here in October of 2023 and looking to do two more next year as well, exclusively for people that are in the Conquerors community. And so it was just so awesome to know that this virtual community turned into a. For the women, a sisterhood, for the.

Brothers, a brotherhood, and for everyone together, a big old family of people that.

Are just not letting life tear them down.

Okay, so that's a little bit about my story.

Here's the thing. I know where you're at, because I was right there. I did the therapist. I tried. I tried. I tried. Tried.

Tried praying it away.

I tried reading my Bible. I tried serving in the church. I tried getting involved in as many things as possible. I was so involved in church.

You can message anybody that I know. Okay, go message my boy Brandon Forbes on Instagram. His name, his handle is at Iambrandon.

Forbes.

Go message him.

Ask him how much was Frank serving in the year 2020?

I was serving five to six days a week at the church. I was doing whatever I could to get distracted.

I did what the therapist told me to do. You. Hey, go spend time with your family, man. Hey, go hit the gym. I started training Jiu Jitsu again.

Felt awesome.

But for some reason, what I realized, and maybe you're here right now.

And you can agree with this, what I realized was that I would go.

Back home, lay my head on the pillow, and then, boom, the thoughts would start coming up again.

Then I'd wake up in the morning, boom, the thoughts would be there again. And then throughout the day, see something, it triggers you. Boom, you're suffering all over again. And it doesn't matter how much you.

Work out, you don't get healthier. What ends up happening is you become more numb. You become more numb.

You, you start developing these walls of like, no, I'm good. And then that leads to the attitude of, I don't need a man and I don't need a woman.

And that leads to the attitude of, no one will ever hurt me again. And that leads to the attitude of, hey, if you don't come correct, if.

You can't see my value, then I don't want any time with you.

It leads to us becoming very closed off individuals.

I was there, I tried everything I freaking could.

And then God got a hold of me. And then God started showing me this process that I'm about to walk you through right now.

So I'm really excited for that. Okay, so first off, who is this for? This is for the person who has gone to therapy and counseling and for some reason you still feel stuck. This is for the people who have gone to church groups and have tried praying it away, have tried reading the Bible to make it go away, and for some reason you still feel stuck. This is for the person who's read all the books, the Battlefield in the Mind, How Body Keeps the Score, how to do the work. Dr. Nicola Pera, you've read all of those books and for some reason you're still stuck. This is for the person who is not a victim. But right now you might be struggling with a little bit of a victim mentality. This is for the individual who wants long lasting results. Long lasting results. I'm talking about. This is for the individual that says, hey, you know what, Frank, I don't want to have to go and hire a therapist every time I go through something. Can I, can I get the tools and the arsenal in my belt to help myself, to help walk myself through some of these things? Yes, this is for that individual. I'm going to give you everything that the Bible is teaching us on how to operate and develop these things, because God gave us everything that we need in here.

Just no one's ever broken it down.

For us on how to practically tangibly do it.

And so that's what you're going to.

Learn in this video. This is also for the person who.

Doesn'T want to end up here again.

This is for the individual who says.

Man, you know what? Never again.

I will not end up in the.

Same place again, and I will do whatever is required.

This is for the person who's ready.

To go all in on themselves for this next season. I'm talking about all in.

I'm talking about you're. You're gonna stop investing and throwing your money into alcohol and weed and partying and stupid garbage that doesn't do anything.

For you except distract you, and you're gonna start spending your money on you.

Your mental health, acquiring skills. This is for the person who's saying, I'm ready to go all in with my time. I've been so busy keeping myself busy, keeping myself distracted that I've never even held space for myself. And I'm ready to start holding space for me. You know why? Because I would love to meet an individual that wants to make time for me. But how can I expect somebody else to make time for me when I won't even make time for myself?

No, no, no.

This is for the person who says, I want to end up with somebody who's all in for me. And I recognize that in order to attract that kind of person, I first have to go all in on myself. This is for the person who says, I'm ready to go all in emotionally.

And spiritually as well.

I'm done trying to do things my way. Holy spirit, God, Jesus. How do you want me to heal? What does your word say that I'm missing? What is it that the therapists haven't been showing me? What is it that I've been reading but I don't know how to practically implement it in my life? What is it I'm ready to learn? I'm tired of doing the same thing over and over again. That's who this is for. Who is this not for? I want to be very clear, and I know I'm going to lose some viewers after this specific slide. And that's okay, because that means the ones that stick around after this slide, we're going to do some work.

You're going to go all in with me, and you're going to get some freaking breakthrough. Come on, man.

So who is this not for? This is not for the person who is just looking to vent or be listened to. Look, I'm sorry. I am a coach. I am not your buddy, buddy. If you want someone to just listen to you, call your friends. You've been doing that for the past couple years, and it's not getting you where you want to get to.

So you.

So don't expect the same. To do the same things, to get a different result. Don't expect to come into this community and just be listened to and heard. Are you going to be listened to and heard? Absolutely. But you better bet that we're going to find the root of the issue.

We'Re going to uproot it, and then we're going to challenge you.

And I'm going to walk you through getting that thing conquered so that you're.

No longer stuck by it. You're not just gonna vent.

This isn't a venting club. And if that's what you're expecting, there's plenty of other free Facebook groups with very bitter, divorced individuals that just want to talk crap about their ex. Go over there. We don't do that here. We operate differently. That's why we have a life filled with fulfillment.

Right?

This is also not for passive individuals. Okay? And here's I. I want to say this before I keep going. If you notice that you are in one of these categories, there's good news for you.

You can choose to say, I don't want to be that person. And by you saying that and continuing to learn on this video, you're already creating breakthrough because you're already choosing to step into a different version of yourself.

And it is so awesome that you.

Can sit there and admit, you know what? All I've wanted to do is really talk crap about my ex.

But I can realize now as I hear you talking, that that's not really helping me. So I'm gonna make a shift.

And so if that's.

You just know you can change right now. And you can create your own breakthrough.

Right now by stepping into the new version of you which says, I'm willing to change. I'm willing to grow.

This is also not for passive individuals. If you think you're going to show up on a coaching call with me and just talking to me is going to get your breakthrough, you are mistaken.

Mistaken. Okay?

You are not going to get the breakthrough. If you are not willing to do the work, you're not going to get the breakthrough. Just like if you're not willing to go clock in at your job, you're not going to get the paycheck. The same thing goes here. You're not willing to do the work, you're not going to get the breakthrough. So this is not for passive individuals, okay? This is not for people who don't value growth, if you value staying the same, if you value never ever having.

To develop and change, if you just, like, comfort. I'm sorry, this is not for you. Okay?

It's not.

It. It's. You're just not gonna enjoy it in here.

You're gonna watch everybody growing.

Then you're just gonna be sitting there not doing anything. You're gonna be like, ah, this doesn't work. It's the same as everything else. No, no, no. Not that this doesn't work. It's that you didn't work. It.

Okay? So it's not good for you. This is not good for individuals. This is not for individuals who do not like taking personal responsibility. You are where you are today because.

Of the choices that you've made and the patterns that you've practiced. Let me say that again. You are where you are today because of the choices that you have made and the patterns that you have practiced.

If you have been stuck for three.

Years, it is because of the choices that you have made and the patterns that you have practiced.

And as soon as we can take.

Accountability, Hear me out. This is why this is so powerful. If you can take accountability for saying, I am where I am today, then guess what? It now gives you the power to get out of where you are today. But if it's your ex's fault that you're here, if it's your daddy's fault that you're here, if it's your mom's.

Fault that you're here, if it's your cousin, Uncle Batman's fault, whatever you want.

To blame, if it's the church's fault.

Society, Joe Biden, if it's all their fault that you're here, then guess what? It's their responsibility to get you out.

That's the number one way to stay stuck. That's where the enemy wants to keep you stuck.

So if you don't like taking personal.

Responsibility, this is not a good fit for you.

This is also not for people that believe that healing takes time.

Okay?

I just showed you a bunch of testimonials, and there's so much more on my Instagram that you can go watch on my highlights under the testimonial tab. Right? Healing does not take time. Just like if you broke your arm.

It'S not time that heals your arm.

If you didn't do anything to your arm after you broke it, it would heal massively.

Incorrect.

So what makes it heal faster and heal correctly? It's the procedure. It's the surgical procedure that doctors do. So time, if you keep believing that time is what's going to heal you, you're in for a rude awakening in.

The next five years.

You're in for a rude awakening when.

You enter your second marriage and those.

End up in a higher rate of divorce because you thought that time was going to heal you and you didn't do the work. So this isn't for people that believe the time heals. Okay? This also isn't for know it alls, okay? If you're coming in here saying that you know it all, well, then I'm.

Just going to be very honest with you. Why are you here?

If you knew it all, you wouldn't.

Be watching this video, would you?

Now, I know that's kind of a slap in the face, but I'm just trying to be honest with you, right? Like, I don't go to my coach's.

House and whenever he opens his mouth, I'm not sitting there thinking, like, ah, what do you know? I think I could do it this way, this way, this way. No, I'm there to learn because I want what he's got. I want that.

I want the success in the family.

That he's got and parenting that he's got.

I want the money that he's got. I want the love of love, Lord, that he's got. I want the.

The joy that he carries.

I want the passion that he carries.

I want the fact that he can.

Go out, go through life and challenges.

Hit him and he's unshaken.

I want that. So guess what? I might not know it all, because if I knew it all, I'd be where he is. But I'm not. I'm in this seat. So if you feel like you know.

It all, let me ask you this.

Why are you on the other side.

Of the screen then? Okay, humble yourself. Then we can grow.

Awesome. Let's get into this. So the main thing has to stay the main thing. And you're going to notice this throughout the process. And if you don't like it, I'm sorry, it's just not a good fit for you. You can go find another coach, you can go find another program that doesn't.

Talk about Jesus so much. Okay?

I will never push Jesus on you, but I will always talk about Jesus.

Because that is who saved my life and that's who gave me this download and that now 1072 people since 2021 have benefited from.

And I want you to benefit from it, too. So this is how we're going to do healing differently. This is the core verse of the Conquerors community. It's Romans 12:1 2. It says. And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice, the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship Him. Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Man.

We got to be a living holy sacrifice, and we got to change the way we think.

Another version of this says that you will be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Awesome.

So let's jump straight into what's causing your suffering.

And yes, I know I am wearing something completely different.

My background looks different. It is because my camera actually died.

As I was filming this.

And then by the time that I.

Got it charged, a couple of days had gone by and I got so busy that I wasn't able to finish editing this or doing this training.

And so, yes, from the beginning of.

The video, I told you that there.

Would not be a lot of editing.

And there still isn't.

But there's a little bit of editing.

Because I have to insert this part in there now.

But all that to say, let's go.

Ahead and jump straight into what's actually creating your suffering.

And here's what I want you to do.

I want to encourage you to really lean in and pay some attention here, okay?

If you go to a doctor and that doctor before you even explain to.

That doctor, they tell you, hey, this is what you need to drink, then they're not really prescribing you medication to the root issue, right?

And even then, when you tell them.

Hey, look, I'm feeling this and I'm feeling that that doctor has to then.

Go down and start looking at what.

The root issue could be before they can give you an accurate diagnosis, Right.

And before they can give you the.

Right dosage for you to cure the problem that's happening.

So that's what we're doing here after helping 1072 people, right?

I think it's at 1078 people now at the recording of this part of the video. Now.

One thing that I've realized is.

That the root issue is always the same thing. Yes, your situation is different, but the root cause of what's creating so much suffering out of all the people I've helped And all the people that I've met with and didn't help, we could all agree on something. And that was this, what is actually creating our suffering. So we're going to learn that today, okay? So let's dive straight into that. We're going to go straight into this beautiful, beautiful whiteboard. I hope that you, you guys love my handwriting. Okay? And so here's what I want us to understand. Okay? First of all, we've got our circumstances. Now this is what we call the human model. This happens to every single person. This is happening to your ex. This is happening to you right now. This is happening to your family members. Every single person operates this exact same way. And I'm going to show you how, how this thing works and how it's affecting us on the day to day basis, okay?

So the first things that we got to look at is we got to.

Look at our circumstances. Okay?

First part of the human model is.

We have our circumstances.

So we experience something in our circumstances.

Now what's a circumstance?

It's something that happens outside.

Of ourselves. Okay? So for example, somebody cuts you off, that's a circumstance. You get let go from your job, that's a circumstance. Your ex or current partner decided to.

Che on you or decided to leave you, that's a circumstance. In other words, it's something that you.

Absolutely have zero control over. Okay?

So right now, your circumstance that you're sitting in right now is more than.

Likely either divorce or separation. Okay? This is what you're facing right now. So now these circumstances, when we experience.

Them, the very first thing that happens naturally, without us even thinking twice about it, is that circumstance starts to create.

Thoughts in our head.

So a lot of these thoughts can.

Actually be subconscious thoughts.

And if you know anything about the.

Subconscious, it controls about 95 to 98% of what you do.

And so we think these thoughts just.

Out of nowhere, right?

So for example, somebody cuts you off, right? And the first thing, like your natural reaction if you got road rage right, is you start cussing him out. Man, f this guy. Beep, beep, beep. You're honking at them. I'm sure we've all experienced that before.

I'm sure I'm not the only one.

But here's the thing. Your initial thought wasn't, this guy pisses me off. More than likely, especially if you had your family in the car, the initial.

Thought that goes on in your head is, dude, this dude could really hurt my family right now. This idiot could really hurt my family. This dude could cause us to wreck right now.

And so that's the initial thought that.

Usually happens behind our head in our subconscious without us even being aware of it.

And then that leads to something else, right? So what I want you to catch.

Here is our circumstance creates our thoughts.

And then our thoughts create our feelings and our emotions.

And I promise I'm going to make this personal to you here in a second, okay? But first, I want you to understand something, okay? Our circumstance is always going to trigger thoughts, and those thoughts will always trigger emotions.

Okay? So a lot of people think that.

Oh, my circumstance is what's bad.

This is bad. So we label it as bad.

In other words, divorce. This is bad.

So we label it as bad. So now what ends up happening?

We think that it's bad.

And because we think that it's bad.

It feels as if it's bad.

Now, I know if you're a Christian in here, you're like, dude, divorce is bad.

God is not for divorce. Absolutely. I'm not saying that he is, but I want to submit something to you guys, okay?

Would you say that my divorce was bad? That me going through a divorce was something bad?

I'm just curious what you would say, because there's a lot of people, like the people that I've now helped because I went through my divorce. That said, man, you going through your divorce has actually been a great thing because you've helped save so many lives now, and you've helped get help people get back on the right track, and you've probably helped so many relationships between parents and kids be saved instead of being ruined through the divorce process. So a lot of people would actually say that my divorce was a good thing, that it was good that I went through it. And I would say the same thing, that it was good that I went through it.

So the first thing that we need.

To recognize about our circumstances is that our circumstances are 100% neutral. Now, I don't know if that's how you spell neutral. Maybe it's EU, but we'll go with it 100% neutral.

What does this mean? This means that it's not good and it is not bad.

It is simply neutral. Now, when I say that, though, I want you to understand that you don't have to feel neutral about it for it to be neutral.

So now how can we bring truth.

Into this being neutral?

Well, first off, we can get practical, okay? There's probably some people in your life.

Right now, now that your ex just left you, that are saying this is actually better for you and this is probably the best thing that could have happened for like to you, honestly, right?

Like you might have some people telling.

You that right now, but then you.

Might have some people saying like, dude.

I can't believe you're going through that. I am so sorry.

So you're having this experience of. Some people say it's good, some people say it's bad. So when that happens, guess what that means? That it's neutral. It is up to our interpretation on.

Whether that's good or that's bad.

Which is beautiful because then that means that your circumstance doesn't have power over you. You have power over your circumstance. Or we can say it this way, your separation, your divorce, your breakup doesn't.

Have power over you. You have power over whether this is.

The best thing that's ever happened to.

You or the worst thing that's ever happened to you. You get to decide that, right?

So circumstances, then we can also look at it from a biblical standpoint, right? The Bible says that God will work all things out. God said, I will work all things out for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose. And God did not say, and he.

Could have if he wanted to, but.

He didn't say that I will use.

All good things and all bad things.

God didn't say that.

No, no.

Because to him it's just things. It's just all, it's just neutral. Because God knows that even the worst.

Thing that you go through in your life, if you put it in his.

Hands, it turns good. So it's not bad and it's not good. It just is what it is. And as soon as you choose to.

Do something with it, that's when it gets meaning. So your circumstance, I want you to see it as that for right now, okay? You don't have to feel neutral about.

It, but just be open minded enough.

To say maybe this isn't good and maybe this isn't bad. Maybe I have the choice on what this is. Right? So it's neutral.

Now this is the next part that.

I want to cover. Our thoughts, this is where all of our suffering is created.

Our thoughts.

Our thoughts revolve around a couple things, okay? Story and meaning. And also focus, but that we will get into in another session because that is a lot already. Okay? So we got story and meaning. This is what our thoughts is created around. So in our mind what happens is we give meaning to situations. So we think, here's our thoughts. We think meaning, this is bad. We add the bad meaning to it. This is the worst thing that's ever happened to me, right? And then we create a story about the situation. Wow, this divorce means I'll always be alone. And so now what happens is we start entertaining this story of how I'm always going to end up being alone. And what's happening is our thoughts are now literally labeling our situation as either the best thing or the worst thing that's ever happened to us by adding meaning to it or by creating a story. And this is where our suffering begins to happen. And this is what I want to show you guys, okay? Because I think this is really extremely powerful for all of us to catch. It's just a very practical truth that if you catch this, it's going to change your life. I promise you. Thoughts don't have to be real. Thoughts can actually be fake. And even if they're fake, they will produce a real tangible feeling. And I'll prove it to you right now, okay? Have you ever, have you ever watched a movie and then something bad starts happening in that movie? And then for some reason your mind immediately goes to, wow, I could not imagine what I would do if that happened to somebody that I love.

And then for some reason you start imagining it.

Whatever is happening in that movie or on the news or on the newspaper, whatever you read it on, you start imagining that that's actually happening to somebody that you loved that happened to you before. And in that moment, doesn't it feel like what you're imagining happening to the individual that you love, doesn't it feel like that's really happening? And how do you feel in that moment when you're entertaining a lie, a made up story, how does it feel? It feels real, doesn't it?

It feels as if that thing is actually happening to you, to the person that you love. And like you're actually experiencing that right now.

Right, exactly.

So that shows that your thoughts can be 100 fake, but create a 100 real emotion.

So let me just put it this way for you, okay? What if you're currently entertaining a thought of my life is over and it's.

Making you feel.

Powerless?

What if I told you, maybe that thought of my life is over? Maybe that thought is fake. Maybe that thought is a lie. Maybe that thought is isn't real. Maybe your life really isn't over. But it will feel as if it's.

Over if you entertain it. Okay?

So I want you to think about.

This and write this down. What you entertain in your head, you'll experience in your body. And then for extra Bonus. Just go ahead and write this whether it's true or not. Shoot, we could even practice it right now if you wanted to. I don't want to. But if you wanted to, you could just think of the worst case scenario happening to your kids right now and.

Just think about it long enough and what will happen?

You'll start crying, tears will flood your eyes. This is how God designed this, okay? So this is the power that we have in one thing and one thing alone. Our thoughts. Our thoughts. Now this right here, this right here is what most people are believing right now.

Not only that, but you're also believing.

I'm not good enough. I'm not enough. That's another lie that you're starting to believe right now, right?

Another lie that you're probably starting to.

Believe is if you're a man, all women are the same.

Right? If you're a lady, you're thinking, all.

Men are the same. Men ain't right.

We, we all know the, the classic.

Thoughts that we have about it.

So all of these things right here.

If you focus on them long enough, I'm telling you, you're going to experience.

Whatever emotion those thoughts would create, whether there's.

They're real or they're not real.

And this is why I wanted to.

Share that with you guys.

Because this, the Bible is so key in this, okay? You're going to learn that everything that I teach you is very biblical, okay?

And that's why it's so powerful.

That's why this method is so powerful. And so many people have had their.

Lives transformed in like less than 90 days.

It's because it's not me, it's Bible, okay? The Bible says to take every thought captive, not some thoughts. So why would the Bible tell us to take every thought captive? It's because God knew the power of our mind. God knew that if you believe life is over after this divorce, it will make you feel as if it's over. And then, because now you feel as if it's over, you're depressed, you're suicidal. So you don't show up the best that you could with your kids, you don't show up the best that you could with your friends. So now your friends don't want to hang out with you because you're just literally putting all this negative energy into them because you've been entertaining a lie. And when you entertain a lie, you.

Experience that lie as if it's truth. And that determines how you show up. That determines how you show up.

This is why the Bible says in Proverbs that, that as a man thinketh.

And believe it in his heart, so he shall be. Because if you think it long enough, you start to feel it. And science has now told us that a belief is what controls us. That's our subconscious. A belief. How do you get a thought into your belief system? You connect it with an emotion.

As soon as you fire off a.

Thought and then you connect it with an emotion, boom, it becomes a belief. Now, that's why so many individuals. And maybe you're sitting here watching this right now, and you've been divorced for two, three years. You're saying, oh, my gosh, it's been three years and I still don't feel enough. It is all because you were firing off that lie and entertaining that lie for so long that it started to connect with your heart. It started to create an emotion, and it became a part of who you are. And so now that's why you walk different, not in a good way. That's why you're a lot more quieter than you used to be. That's why you're a lot less outgoing. That's why you just don't trust as much. And you think that's wisdom, but really it's just you trying to protect yourself, and you're keeping everybody on the outskirts. That's why you don't know how to set boundaries. You just cut people off and remove them from your life. And you're wondering why life is so lonely. And it is all because we did not do what the Bible told us to do, which is, son, take every thought captive so that you can be transformed. Romans, here we go.

Romans 12, 1, 2.

So that you could be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Transformation in this season is not going to happen just by going to church. I'm telling you right now. I tried that. Transformation in the season. It's not going to happen by just reading your Bible all the time. I tried that.

Transformation in this season is not going to happen by you just starting to.

Date other people, smoke some weed, drink some alcohol, distract yourself as much as you possibly can. I tried that and maybe you've tried it as well. Transformation is going to happen through one thing and one thing alone. The renewing of your mind. And that only happens when we start taking thoughts captive.

So that's why I wanted to show.

You guys on here what's creating, what's causing your suffering. It is your thoughts. Right now you might be thinking that your ex is the one that's hurting you. No, no, no, your ex is the circumstance. You have power over your circumstance. Your ex cheating on you is not a bad thing. It could be a very good thing.

Because it might have freed you up.

To finally step into the life that God's always wanted for you. Because, let's be honest, you wouldn't have.

Left the marriage had they not cheated.

And chose to go with somebody else.

You wouldn't have left the marriage. You would have stayed there trying to work it out because you honor God.

So much and because you value loyalty so much.

And so what if God is trying.

To use that to free you?

Because the only reason that you can get divorced in the Bible, Biblically speaking, is for cheating. So what if God is trying to.

Use that to free you and you're.

Sitting here looking at your circumstance as the fact that there was an affair that happened. You're seeing it as a bad thing.

Because you're thinking it's bad, so you.

Feel back about bad about it. So you're blocking the blessing that God's trying to give you.

I'm telling you, your circumstance will create your thoughts. Your thoughts will create your feelings. And your feelings will determine how you show up all of your actions. If you are immobilized right now, it is because of one thing and one thing only. The thoughts that you're entertaining in your head. The thoughts that you're entertaining in your head, that's the only thing that's keeping you stuck. Not your ex. This right here is what causes suffering. So the takeaway from this is I.

Want you to remember this and just.

Really, really observe it. Some of you are getting breakthrough already. I can already sense it. You're getting breakthrough just knowing the simple fact that your thoughts can be fake but create a real emotion. So maybe what I've been thinking isn't even real, even though it feels real. So I want you to write this down. What you entertain in your head, you'll experience in your body. Even if it's not real. Even if it's not real, what you're entertaining in your head right now. That's what's kept you depressed, not your ex. It's the story you've been telling yourself. It's the meaning that you're attaching to your situation. Here's the beautiful part. You have the power to change that.

So how do we do that?

That's what this is for.

How to start feeling better today. That's what we're going to cover on this.

Okay?

There are three pillars to breakthrough. Number one, body, then spirit, then Mind and yes, in that order, more than likely right now.

What you've been trying to do is.

You have been trying to get yourself to feel better by just simply thinking your way out of it. You can't think your way out of.

Some of these things.

Okay? You can't. There can't.

There is a. A transformation that happens when you renew your mind. I'm about to sneeze again. Ah, bless you. Thank you. Thank you guys for being so awesome and letting me be myself on these videos and not have to try and edit things out and whatnot. Because, hey, you know, I'm a real human too, so I sneeze and I got allergies as well, right?

So a lot of you, what you've been doing is you're trying to think.

Your way out of this, man. Why wasn't I enough? Why, God? Why am I going through this? Why is this happening to me? And you're just thinking, thinking, thinking. You're just still in a rut. This is why therapy isn't as effective as it could be, because you're just sitting there trying to mind your way through things, trying to think your way through things. And. And that just doesn't work.

We've got to follow a biblical formula.

That has now been proven in 1078 lives. Okay?

In Romans, chapter 12, it says. It's the scripture that we read before. Okay, I want to hit on this specific part. I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he.

Has done for you.

Let them be a living and holy sacrifice.

Okay?

Give your bodies to God. Why is that so important? Because the first pillar, the first pillar for us to get the breakthrough that we need is our body. Our body. Our body produces energy.

Why is this so important? Okay.

I already know when the worst time.

Of the day is for you. I already know when you struggle the most.

I already know. You don't need. I don't even need to know your.

Story or your situation to know what are the moments that you struggle the most. I know for a fact. First off, because I was there. Second off, because this is how science works. You struggle the most every single morning and every single night. Yes or no? Every single morning when you wake up, it's a struggle to get out of bed. That's not by accident. Every night when you lay your head on the pillow, regardless of how much you've exhausted your body at the gym, it's a struggle to fall back asleep because your mind is running. Yes or no? You know why you struggle so much? At those times, because your body produces energy. And when your body has low movement, or we could say low motion, because this is going to sound sexier, it's going to create low quality. Come on, Frank, spell right. Quality emotions, that's just how it goes. If your body isn't moving, you're going to create low quality emotions.

Now, if you can get your body moving, what will happen is you'll create powerful emotions.

So low quality emotions are sadness, depression, anxiety, right? Everybody says this nowadays and I hope that you take this into consideration, you apply it to your life. That action is the cure to anxiety.

That doesn't just mean like, hey, go.

Do something about the thing. Obviously you need to, but if you just get up and do something, if you go for a run, right? One of the number one ways that I know to start producing high quality.

Emotions that make you feel powerful, that.

Makes you feel driven, that makes you feel good.

Those things, one of the number one way that I know how to do.

That is cold exposure. If you got an ice bath, do an ice bath. If you don't do a two minute cold shower and yes, force yourself to do it, I promise you, you're not going to get a cold and you're not going to die. Okay, well, I don't know if I can promise you that because what if you do get a cold and then you blame me for it? So I'm not going to promise anything. Okay, but cold exposure or hey, something crazy.

Working out this recipe. Number one, the first pillar to get your breakthrough is you've got to wake up your body. Cold exposure, working out, running, whatever it is. Some of you love to dance, some of you love to worship, some of you love to sing. All of those things. There's a reason why you feel so good when you do those things. It is because it's requiring movement and high intensity from your body. So you've got to make it do that.

Now some of you, right now, you're, you're struggling with the depression. And I get that. That's where I was at.

That's why I was introduced to cold exposure, because I couldn't even do five push ups. I literally would do like four push ups, maybe five. I'd roll out of the bed, do.

Those push ups, climb back into the bed. But when I did cold exposure therapy, what ended up happening? It started waking up my body, it.

Started producing high levels of energy. And when I experience high levels of energy, I feel incredible.

I feel incredible, right?

This is why you go out, you know, to work out with your boys or with your girls. You go to the club or to the gym. And during the workout when you're really mo. You just feel amazing and it's like nothing else in the world matters. I'll be able to deal with that.

Once I get back home.

Right? But as soon as you stop moving, boom, you're hit.

You're hit heavily.

And this is where most people stop. Most people stop with the body, okay? Most people stop there and that's why.

They never get their breakthrough.

So we're not going to stop there because then you just become a gym.

Rat and you're just addicted to the gym.

And now you're going to the gym.

Like I've talked to someone before three.

Times a day just so that you can feel better.

And you've got kids. If you can go to the gym three times a day and you have kids, you are not showing up as a parent.

I'm sorry. You are not. And you are going to ruin your.

Relationship with your kids because of the gym.

Just because you don't want to do.

The work to truly learn how to feel better and create that long lasting effect. Right?

So let's not do that. Use your body.

Wake it up, okay? Wake. Wake it up. To create power. Full. I'm just gonna put emos. Emotions. Wake your body up to create powerful emotions. Boom. Step number one, okay? Step number two. We gotta wake up our spirit. We can't just try and think ourselves through these things. We've got to access our spiritual being. Because God gave you this incredible thing called a spirit. That's what separates us from animals and anything else on this world, is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. And so the best way to get those answers, the reason why I was able to get those, develop this method and help so many people now successfully. It's not because I just thought my way through it. It's not because I just worked out. No. It's because I woke up my spirit. And when I woke up my spirit, I was able to connect to God and I was able to listen to what he's telling me to do. And guess what? When you wake up your spirit, you're more willing to take risks. When you wake up your spirit, you're more willing to do the hard things than when you're just thinking through them. So we got to wake up our spirit. How are we going to wake up our spirit? I want you to do this. You're going to use the power of your focus, the Bible says to seek me and seek me with all your heart and you will find me. Right? And seek and you shall find. Ask and you will receive. Knock and it'll be given to you. Okay, this is all biblical stuff. It's the power of our focus. Why did God tell us that? He told us that because he knew that there was this beautiful part in our brain called the reticular activating system, or the ras. You can Google it, do your research on it, find out for yourself. Right? What this does is whatever you focus on, it will highlight it to you. It will literally highlight it to you. This is why you started driving that car that you have. And it's like you rarely ever saw that car. But then as soon as you started driving the car, what happened?

You see that freaking car everywhere, right? As soon as you got super interested into the car and you got in the car, now it's like everybody has the car that you never saw but you always wanted. Why is that? It's not by accident. It's not like the universe or God just dropped all these vehicles around you.

That are similar to yours.

No, no. What actually ended up happening was your reticular activating system went to work because that's what you've been so focused on for so long that it started to highlight all of them to you. Right. So what are we going to do then? We're going to use the power of our focus. We're going to use the power of our focus to create, to wake up our spirit. What wakes up our spirit? The Bible says to enter his gates with what?

Not with pleading, not with asking for forgiveness, not with repentance, not with tears.

The Bible says to enter his gates with.

Thanksgiving. Yes. I don't mean the turkey. I mean the act of it. Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving and love. We could also substitute Thanksgiving for gratitude if that sounds better for you. This right here is what's going to wake up your spirit. You are going to have to focus on thanking God. And here's the beautiful thing, it doesn't take that long. It does not take that long. Here's what I would do. I would encourage you to do this with me right now.

Okay?

I want you just to close your eyes with me. There's nothing crazy about this. It's just going to help you focus. Okay? I want you to close your eyes with me, and I just want you to think about somebody in your life right now that you really, genuinely care about and that you really appreciate, that you're so grateful for just one person. Just think about that individual right now. Now, I want you to get very detailed with this and specific. Think about a moment that you shared with that person that made you feel so loved, that made you feel so grateful for them. Just the way that they showed up for you. Now I know what you're feeling right now. Keep your eyes closed for a second, though. Don't try and leave this moment. Be here. This is probably the best that you felt in a long time. Be here. In this moment. You feel that person. You feel that love that you feel for that individual. You feel those emotions that you're feeling right now. Go ahead and open your eyes with me now. That's your spirit coming to life. That took us, what, 15 seconds? If you played all out with me, you. You're. Right now you're wiping tears from your eyes. If you didn't, it's just another video. And do me a favor, just stop watching this video and go. Go watch another coach or whatever. That will give you some surface level BS that's not really going to help you get the breakthrough that you deserve. This right here, if you went all in with me, you're experiencing what it's like to wake up your spirit right now. Now, if you want to take that to the next level, this is what we would do. It's not just Thanksgiving and love. It's serving. This is how we wake up our spirit. How can we practically do it? Do what you just did. You know that person that you were thinking about them, you can serve them by texting them. You can either text them or send them a voice memo, or if you really have the balls, call them. And just maybe for the first time in a very long time, would you just tell them how grateful and thankful you are for them. Just tell them that. Tell them, man, I was just thinking about you today. I just want you to know I'm so thankful for you because I remembered a moment when you. And tell them exactly what they did and tell them exactly how they made you feel, and then tell them exactly why you appreciate them in that moment. I promise you, that moment right there will change the trajectory not just of your day, but of their day. And in that moment, your spirit, boom, will be alive. The feeling that you just felt a second ago, it will be to the next level. You will take that to the next level. And now, now you're primed up. Now you're ready to do the work. Now we focus on the mind.

What is the mind?

The mind is learning to take every thought captive. The mind is where we change the story. This is where we challenge the lies that we've been believing, right? We go back to the first, it's gonna slide for me or not. Geez, here we go. This is where we go back to this. My life is over.

I'm not enough.

All women are the same. All men are the same, right? Like, why wasn't I good enough?

This is where we can start challenging the lies that we've been believing. And guess what? When we start challenging them, we'll start.

Feeling different about the situation.

This situation will no longer be bad.

We'll actually be able to see it as neutral. And if you get really good at this, right, you'll actually be able to see this as a blessing. And that's how you're going to accept this divorce. You're going to accept it as a blessing. Not as a curse, not as just.

It is what it is, but as.

A blessing that God allowed you to experience on this earth. A blessing gift that you've received. That's how we're going to do it. It's going to happen not just through trying to figure things out and aimlessly seeking.

It's going to happen through waking up our body. It's going to happen through waking up our spirit. And then it's going to happen by.

Taking every thought captive so that we.

Can be transformed by the renewing of our mind.

That's how we're going to do it.

And here's what's beautiful. You can do everything I just said right now, and you're gonna get breakthrough right now. You can start challenging all those lies. How are you gonna challenge those lies?

I'll show you right now. Give you a real practical exercise that you can do. It's really going to help you. Okay? This is how you're gonna do it. Put the lies here and then put the truth here. Now that your spirit's awake, you know what the truth lie is? I'm not good enough. What's the truth? You feel it. You feel it in your spirit, not with your head. In your spirit. What's the truth? I'm more than enough. Beautiful. We're only going to do this one right now. The rest you can do on my. On your own. And if you ever need help with this, feel free. You can join my coaching group, join my inner circle, where I get to meet with you guys, like twice a week, right? And we can really work through some of this stuff and I can guide you through it. But if you just do this on your own, you're going to get the breakthrough I'm telling you right now. Okay, so we're only going to do this one. So how do we really debunk it? Now what we got to do is we take this truth and we've got to begin to stack evidence. Undeniable evidence. How do you know you're more than enough, man? Because I'm loyal. Evidence. I was loyal to a fault. I literally laid down my life for that individual. Man. I was willing to do whatever it took to make this thing happen. Another piece of evidence. Man, I always believed the best about them. Regardless how they spoke about me, regardless what they did, I always was willing to make this thing work. Evidence. Man, I was so intentional. I might not have been perfect, but I was always willing to develop myself and be intentional about that growth pattern. Evidence. Stack so much evidence in favor of the truth that it becomes undeniable to you that that lie is not true. And then what do you do? You just rehearse. That's it.

You just repeat this process over and.

Over again as long as you need to repeat it for. But here's what I want you to remember, okay? I want you guys to write this down also. What's annoying now will be automatic later. What's annoying now will be automatic later.

You doing this work right now is.

Going to be annoying. You start feeling a type of way, you're gonna have to go boom to the drawing board. Wake up my body, wake up my spirit. Address the lies, change the lies, stack the evidence. You're gonna have to go through that process over and over and over. It's going to be annoying.

But just like when you first learned.

How to drive, it was really annoying. Or if you played sports, they were teaching you how to do something, some technique. Whether that was hit a bat, whether that was serve a volleyball, whether that was shoot a basketball, dribble.

They gave you all the details for it.

And when you were first learning, it was frustrating and it was annoying.

There was too much to think about. There's gotta be an easier way. But the more you did it, what.

Ends up happening, you start doing automatically. This is how you will heal from your ex. If you make it super annoying today, it will be automatic for you to know that this is a blessing tomorrow. If you annoyingly remind yourself of how you are enough today, it is going to be automatic tomorrow. So you just got to make sure.

That you do the work. Sound good, everybody? Hope you're doing good, man.

I hope this is helping you. That's how you feel better today.

Perfect.

Last thing we're gonna end on this. Okay, thank you so much for giving me so much of your time.

How to Never End up Here Again So now we know that we've got our circumstances and our circumstance creates our.

Thoughts, our stories and our meanings. And those stories, meanings and thoughts create our feelings or emotions.

Even if they're not real thoughts, they're still going to create real emotions.

And then those feelings, this is the.

Last part of the human model, are.

Going to lead us to an action. Those actions will lead us to a result.

So this is what normally happens.

Okay? Divorce is a circumstance.

The thought and meaning is.

I'm going to end up alone. The other one is, obviously, I'm not good enough. Right? It's just very generic ones that I see the most when I work with people. Okay? Those always lead us to feel insecure, a little bit anxious, right? A little self conscious or whatever it is called. We get led to all of that. Okay, so then what does this lead to? This leads for us. When we get into a relationship in the future, this leads for us to actually either we end up settling because this is going to be the best that I can do. I mean, I'm divorced. I wasn't even enough for them. So maybe for this person, I'll be enough. So we end up subconsciously settling and then what ends up happening? We end up going through a divorce again. Because we end up unfulfilled in another relationship yet again. And this is why the suicide rate for second marriages and third marriages is higher than your first marriage. It's because nobody ever does this work. Okay? The next action that could happen if you're feeling insecure, anxious or self conscious is you might end up with somebody.

They might be with you.

But let me ask you something. When you're anxious, when you're insecure, when you're more self conscious, when you're actually.

Like believing that man, I don't know if I'm enough.

Do you show up confident? Do you show up playful? Do you show up fun?

Or do you show up a little.

Bit more anxious, a little bit more needy, needing a little bit more validation because you're so insecure, you're not even that playful and fun anymore because you're.

Just worried about what they think about you, right? So let me just ask you this. If you ended up with someone like.

That, showing up needy, needing validation all the time, right? And then always protective because what if you hurt me?

If you ended up with somebody like that, let me just ask you, would you stay?

The answer is no. No, you wouldn't stay. I know you want to say that you would stay, but eventually you would get sick and tired of that individual. You'd be like, dude, get it together. Come on now. And then you would end up leaving. So why do we think that somebody would end up with us and choose to stay? So what ends up happening? Right? This is what ends up happening. The result is they leave and then now that result becomes the circumstance in our life again and it's a full repeat cycle all over again. This is how we end up in the same spot again. So how do we never end up here again? You've got to address this. You've got to change these stories. You've got to become a master of changing these meanings. You've got to uproot every single terrifying thought that has been haunting you, that has been hurting you.

And you've got to viciously attack it with your body, with your spirit, and with your mind. That's what you need to do. If not, we will end up in.

The same place again.

That's how we don't end up at.

The same place again.

It is a hundred percent proof. I'm telling you, I had an individual. Here's, here's the cheat code to all of this.

Okay?

If you're thinking negatively, you're going to feel negatively, so you're going to show.

Up negatively, so you're going to get a negative result.

If you're thinking negatively about your parents, you're going to feel negatively about your parents, so you're going to show up.

Negatively with your parents and you're going.

To get a negative result with your parents. The same thing goes if you're currently married or with your partner, co parent, whatever it is. This is how I help people through co parenting as well. It's the same thing if you want to implement boundaries with your co parent, but you're thinking thoughts like, God, they're such idiots.

They're this and this and that.

Guess what? You are now feeling frustrated and angry towards that individual. So guess what? You're doing a good thing by trying to implement boundaries. But the problem is you're not doing.

It out of a place where your spirit's awake. You're doing it out of a place of frustration. And because you're doing it out of a place of frustration, your communication is.

Just a little different and you're just throwing just a little bit more of a jab and it's happening automatically and you don't even know why. And then you guys explode into Another huge fight and you're like, they just.

Don'T honor my boundaries. It just doesn't work.

Well, the problem might not be them, obviously, it might be a little bit of them, but the problem might be that, man, I chose to establish boundaries out of a bad state of mind.

And so I got a bad result.

Is the cheat code. Is the cheat code. So I'm telling you right now, if you will do everything that I just covered on this specific video, on this.

Training, you're going to get over your existence. I'm telling you, you just got to challenge those lies.

Wake up your body, wake up your spirit.

Challenge those lies. Do that over and over and over and over again.

Here's the thing, if you need help, if you really need help, you're like, dude, I love this, this was phenomenal, but I need some extra help.

Then here's the thing.

In the description down below. I am going to leave a link.

So that you can schedule a call with me to see if you are going to be a good fit for my inner circle coaching group where I.

Meet with you guys two times a.

Week and we can actually work through some of these issues. But here's the thing.

I want to be very clear. This is not for an individual who is just looking to vent, who just wants to talk about it, who, everything that I covered in the beginning, this is not for them. This is for an individual that's saying, hey, you know what brother, I'm all in. I'm all in. I am done doing the same thing and I'm ready to invest in, yes, financially, yes, emotionally, yes, my time and yes, my effort to go all in for the next 90 days so that I can finally break through from this and so I cannot end up in.

The same place again. If that is you, then please feel free to go down to the description down below and book a call with me. Again, this is not for anybody right now who just wants to be heard. This, this is not for anybody right now who is not willing to invest financially.

This is not for anybody right now.

Who'S not willing to alter their schedule so that they can make the meetings. This is not for anybody right now.

Who thinks that, oh, I just need.

To talk to you one on one and it's only me and you.

This is for people who are saying.

No, no, no, no. I want a community of like minded individuals to come by my side and support me and help me navigate through this process. And on top of that, I want to be able to bring my, my problems to you. And so that you can help me uproot these meanings and these deep stories and these subconscious thoughts that I've been.

Believing so that I can finally get.

The breakthrough that not just I deserve, but my legacy deserve.

So that I can finally show up.

As the parent that God designed me to be.

So I can finally enjoy the life.

That I've always wanted.

So that I can finally believe that God has good plans for me, of hope to prosper me and to give me a future even though I've been through a divorce. I want that life. I don't want my life to be a plan B. I want this to be a plan A. I want God to move abundantly in my life.

And so if that's you, I want to encourage you.

Go to the link down below, schedule.

A call with me and let's chat to see if you're a good fit for this coaching program. And if that's not you, go ahead and keep this video saved and just continue practicing. Go to my YouTube channel. I got a lot of free stuff in there as well. You can be able to work through some of those things also. So you could just get as much as you can out of these free resources, right? Work through them. You again, you don't need me. You just need to do the work. But if you feel like you do need that little extra push, then I'm always here. Okay? So conquer. Thank you so much for sticking with me. Thank you so much for giving me so much of your valuable time.

I honor you, I really do. Because there's a lot of people who.

Are just out there looking for a quick fix. But that's not you. That tells me that you carry something different.

That tells me that you're willing to.

Do what's required so that you can be a picture of what's possible to your kids so that they can look at you and say, man, my parent, my dad, my mom went through something that was normally it would take anybody out, but for some reason it gave them, it made them a better person. It gave me a better parent.

Let this let your kids have a.

Different story about divorce.

So many kids out there hate divorce.

Let your kids say, man, it's not.

That I like divorce but kind of.

Am thankful for it because it gave me a better parent. Like genuinely.

It genuinely gave me a parent that.

Is actually worth following. It gave me a parent that it wasn't just my hero when I was six years old.

Because it's easy for us to be.

Our kids heroes when they're six. But can we still be their hero when we're 30? When they're 30? Can we still be their hero when they're 45? When now they know the ins and outs of this life, and they're like, dude, my dad didn't pay the price. I had to pay the price for that thing when he had the ability to do it, man. My mom didn't break those chains. I'm having to break those chains now. Let's not be those parents, okay, Conqueror. So whether that's working with me or whether that's just you diving deep into this video again and being guided through it, then please, please, please, please, please do whatever you need to do so that you never end up here again. I love you, Conqueror. I'll see you on the next video.