Ashley ChandlerFounder + CEO, The Teenage Guide · Founder and CEO, The Teenage Guide | Parent and Teen Coach

Are you 'failing' or do you just need boundaries?

10 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment of Ashley Chandler’s personal‑development video, the speaker emphasizes that time is our most valuable, non‑refundable resource. She urges viewers to become aware of what drains their energy, especially within the home environment. She highlights how periods of intense work for both partners can increase the load on children, making it essential to establish clear boundaries and guardrails. Additionally, she notes that women’s menstrual cycles can cause fluctuating energy levels and needs, requiring further self‑awareness and adjustment. The overall message is that perceived “failure” often stems from unmanaged drains and lack of boundaries rather than personal inadequacy.

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Because time is your greatest currency. I don't need to tell you that, but we're not getting it back, people. We are not getting it back. We are letting ourselves get distracted. And so we've got to become aware of first what exactly is draining us. For us inside our own home, that might mean seasons where my husband and I have more intense work. So we notice that our kids have more drains. Like we've got to be on it about the boundaries, about the guardrails for this. This also means around our cycle as women, sometimes around our cycle, we experience things very differently. And so we can have different drains for that.