Awareness is where the cycle begins to change.
In this talk, Ashley Chandler explores how people often fall into familiar stress cycles within close relationships—whether with aging parents, teenagers, or partners. She explains that conflict and drama become a recognizable ‘home’ signal for the nervous system because past experiences have conditioned us to associate tension with safety. This unconscious recreation of stress patterns leads to repeated arguments, with one person avoiding conflict while the other provokes it. Chandler argues that becoming aware of these patterns is the first step toward breaking the cycle and fostering healthier dynamics.
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