Stop conflict from turning into a narrative
In this brief segment of her YouTube talk, Ashley Chandler explains how persistent conflict between parents and teenagers can evolve into entrenched personal narratives. She describes a feedback loop where parents begin to view their teens as uncaring or unengaged, while teens internalize the belief that they are the problem and that nothing they do is right. These self‑reinforcing stories become long‑term identity scripts that shape how each side perceives themselves and each other, ultimately dictating behavior and emotional wellbeing. The segment serves as a warning and a call to recognize and interrupt these harmful narratives before they solidify.
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