Traditional goal setting doesn't work anymore

The old way of setting and achieving goals just doesn't work for me anymore. And in this video, I want to share with you a new way that helps you focus on what you can actually control. Okay, so the old way of setting, achieving goals was all about creating a big vision, writing it down, and then killing yourself to achieve it. And frankly, I got tired of that. I got tired of trying to predict the future. I got tired of beating myself up when I didn't reach the goal, feeling like empty when I did reach the goal. So I stopped doing that. And what I'm doing these days is, is a little bit different. So it really has four steps. Step number one is you can still choose a big outcome and inspiring goal that you want to achieve. So for example, let's say I want to write a best selling self help book. That's where most traditional goal setting stops. And then you just try to figure out how to do it. The second step though, in our new process is to figure out, all right, when would I realistically be able to achieve this goal by and we want to err on the side of caution. We want to give ourselves more time than we may need. So let's say it's going to take a year just to write the book. So I'm not including publishing or any of that. That would be 12 chapters in a year, one chapter per month. Okay, that sounds reasonable. Third step is we want to figure out the process we'd have to go through how we would achieve that goal. Okay, so for example, let's say I need to do a chapter a month for 12 months to write this book. If I wrote 800 words a day, I'd have more than enough material to edit down into a chapter. Right. So the process goal, in this case, how we're achieving the goal would be writing 800 words a day. So the fourth step, this is key, is we want to ask ourselves the following question. If I did not achieve the main outcome goal that I started with, would the process still be worthwhile? In other words, would writing 800 words a day still be inherently valuable and worthwhile? Even if I never ended up writing a best selling book, for me, the answer is yes, I enjoy writing. It might help someone and at the very least it would help clarify my thoughts. It would be like journaling and helping me work through this issue that I'm writing about. If for you, the answer is no and you can't justify the process in and of itself, my recommendation is you set a new goal because that's not going to work for you. You're always going to have your happiness pinned on something that you really can't control. In this new process, what I do is, once I have the how, I actually drop everything else. I drop what I wanted to achieve. I dropped my timeline, my when. And I just focus on the process that I've committed to that's valuable in and of itself. And when you do this, you really can't fail because you enjoy the thing itself. You're already winning each time you do it. You're not clutching or clinging tightly. And you might even have it where you don't start with a big goal. You just start with a process. You just start with a commitment, a how. For. For example, let's say you want to meditate 10 minutes a day, and you feel like, man, if I did that, I don't know what it would lead to, but I feel like it would just be inherently worthwhile. Even if it just taught me discipline, that would be valuable in and of itself. Write that down and then commit to that. Let go of the outcome. So hope that helped. Give it a try. Let me know how it goes for you.