51. The 5 Ground Rules To Staying Motivated When Learning English

Hey, hey, hey, everyone. Welcome to the Influency Podcast. I'm Hadar Shemesh, often pronounced as Shemesh by native speakers, and today I'm going to talk about something so incredibly important and often overlooked in the English learning industry, and that is how to stay motivated when learning and practicing English. Okay, so tell me if it's true or not when you consider going into another English journey. Because we know it comes and goes, right? Like in Peaks, sometimes you're super passionate. Maybe there is a deadline. Maybe there is a job interview or a trip that you're planning or a meeting or a talk where you're like, okay, okay, I gotta.

I gotta work on my English.

I gotta improve. I have like a month, three months, five weeks, and I really need to step up my English. Great. And you're super motivated. And then the event happens or something else happens, and then you're like, okay. I mean, there are other things that I need to do. I got to work on my donut making. I got to focus on crafting small miniature guitars, right? Like, there are other things that just simply get in the way. Netflix your cat, especially when it's 4am and she's hungry and she's going to meow until you wake up and get her some food. And no, I'm not bitter at all. Anyway, as you can see, things get in the way and then English is forgotten. Now, it's not really forgotten. It's just that you are less motivated about doing the work and watching everything without subtitles because it's, you know, it takes more energy and concentration. Sometimes at the end of the day, you just want to lie there on the couch and not think too much, right? And watching TV shows without subtitles requires thinking. So you're not as passionate or motivated about that. And here's the thing about English. It's a lifelong journey. I mean, I know it's going to sound discouraging because you're like, what? I want to do it in three.

Months, and then, oh, I'll be better.

And I won't have to deal with English ever again. But the truth of the matter is that English is a lifelong journey and there is always something else to learn. And you want to be friends with your English learning journey, and you want to be constantly motivated about that. And it's about the little things. And this is why I'm not a fan of overdoing it and practicing every day for hours on end, because to be honest, it just doesn't stick. And what we want is for it to be consistent just a little bit every day. If you haven't listened to my podcast about the compound effect, which talks about how small smart decisions lead to huge results. And this is the thing about English, that's the real thing. And it's episode number 15 and I'm gonna link to it in the show notes so you can and listen to it after if you haven't yet. Now, in this episode, I'm going to share with you my tips for staying motivated in English. This is the audio version of my video magazine and if you want, you can also watch the video because I dance there a little bit. I dance and I sing, which you will hear if you keep on listening to it. I recommend that you do. But if you want to watch the video version, I'm going to link to it in the show notes as well. I hope you enjoy it and hear. Here it is. How to Stay Motivated When Learning English.

Hey, welcome, it's Hadar, and today we're going to talk about the ground rules that will help you stay motivated when you're learning English, especially if you're learning English on your own. So you all know this. When you're embarking on a new journey, when you're starting something new, whether it's starting to learn a new language or starting to work out or go on a new diet, then we start strong. We're very motivated. Things are working well for us until they don't anymore, until we get discouraged, until the body starts resisting the change, and until we start saying to ourselves, I don't see results. So maybe I'm not really good at it. Maybe I just can't do it. I'm not good at learning languages, working out, it's just not for me. So here's the thing. It's very natural for us to stay in our comfort zone. It's human nature to resist change. It's scary. We don't know what's out there, right? It doesn't feel right to fail and to make mistakes. But here's the thing, that's the only way to reach your goals, to see results, and to achieve the things that you want to achieve, especially with language learning. So the way I see it is that if you're learning on your own, you have to do a few things deliberately or you have to keep a few ground rules that will help you stay motivated and do it for the long run. So here are my five ground rules to staying motivated when learning a new language, especially English. Number one, you have to remember your why learning English Is not the goal. Learning English is the means to reach your true goals. What are your true goals? Now I really want you to dig deep and to think. What are the things that you wish for yourself that you know that you need English for? Is it changing your job or position in the company? Would you like to manage teams or teach people? Do you want to speak in public more? Right. What are the things? And there are no dreams that are too big. Okay? So think big. Right now I want you to think big and really visualize yourself. And what would you do if English was not an obstacle, if you had perfect English? And I want you to remind yourself of that every single time before you start learning. Visualize yourself in that position in that country, doing that thing, speaking to the people you want to speak with before you're starting. So you have to be very specific and focused about what you really wish for yourself. Because when you visualize it and you see it, it stimulates you. And that feeling, that excitement that you feel will get you passionate about the next 10 minutes, 15 minutes, hour and a half that you are learning that you're studying because the actual work is boring. What you're going to achieve is the interesting part. So you have to always remind yourself when. What is your. Why? Why are you learning English? When I go online and research for English learning materials, I find the materials so incredibly boring. I mean, I see these dialogues and they're like, no one speaks like that. It feels like it's meant for kids. And the situations and the quizzes have all these silly sentences. Now, I'm not saying you can't use silly sentences, but when you do it over and over again, it doesn't really trigger anything intellig in your brain. And then you get bored. And when you get bored, you get discouraged and frustrated and then you think it's your fault. So do the things that interest you. So I'm recommending for you to become a bit more creative and engaged in creating the materials that you're using to learn. Learning English does not have to be learning from online resources for English learners. And the Internet is packed with materials in English. Podcasts, articles, books, YouTube videos, Facebook groups that encourage conversation. So instead of settling for the simple solution and being a little lazy about it, you know, just downloading quizzes or tasks that are online, create your own practice exercises. So, for example, it could be read an article and mark all the interesting or important words and then create a different text using these words or. Or listen to a podcast and echo it, repeat it, shadow It. Or take a TED Talk and try to understand the concept of the talk and then teach it to someone or speak about it. Record yourself as if you're teaching someone. Okay. There are tons of ideas of what you could do. Pick a monologue from a movie that you really like and memorize it and pretend that you are the actor and do it for fall out in front of the mirror. So do things that interest you and inspire you. And, of course, create situations where you can actually talk to people and practice your speaking skills. Because remember that that's the most important thing. And talking to people is always. I mean, not always. Sometimes it can get boring. But talking to interesting people, people that you like in English is the best way for you to advance and to practice your speaking skills. The third thing is stay focused and keep the flow. The way we're wired is that when we start doing things, it doesn't matter what it is, whether it's doing your job, writing something, or practicing your English. It takes time until we get to the zone, that zone of flow where everything is just, like, coming out of us, that we lose track of time and things are going really well, and we feel that we're actually doing something that we're advancing. Now you can lose that state of flow and focus like this. Can you guess how long it takes to regain your focus after one small distraction? So let's say you're in this state of flow. You're doing things really well, and then you get distracted. Do you know how long it takes you to get back on track or to get back to the same focus? Yes. According to a recent research conducted at the University of California. Research, for most people, it takes about 23 minutes and 15 seconds to get back to exactly where you were after one distraction. Oh, someone texted me. Okay, let's continue practicing. Or phone call. Hey, what's up? No, I'm practicing my English right now. I'm studying English. I can't talk, so. Oh, really? Is that what you did? Oh, so cool. Okay, I'll talk to you later. Okay. Where was I? 23 minutes and 15 seconds later. Maybe you'll get back to your flow. Now. We. We do this all the time. We get distracted all the time, especially with those freaking phones. I know that because when I write content or when I make videos or when I have to write a complex price proposal, then whenever it gets difficult, challenging, when I need to think a little harder, you know what I do? I look at my phone. I check my Facebook group, I look for WhatsApp notifications and then I go back to it and I'm like, you know, where was I? And you know what I did? I started putting post it notes on my computer saying, if you open Facebook, you'll have less time to sleep. If you open Facebook, that means less time with your girls, because it takes me longer to do it now, since you have a period of time where you can learn. So it's not like you deprive yourself.

Of doing other things. Things.

But what you do is you don't get into that flow. And when you don't get into that flow, then you don't see the change. You don't feel empowered. You don't feel like, hey, something's clicking here. This is working for me. Hey, I feel great. I sound great. I see results, I hear results, right? Because when you don't get into that flow, you don't. You don't see all that. You don't get all that. And then when you constantly don't see results day in, day out, then you get discouraged. Then you're not going to stay motivated. Because we only stay motivated when we see and feel the change. When you learn English, there are a few things that you need to learn. There is grammar and accent, which there you have intonation and pronunciation. And all of these things, you know what they are for you. And when you sit down getting ready to learn something, then you're like, okay, today I'm going to work on my vocabulary. Now, vocabulary is a huge thing. There is, like, so many layers to learning vocabulary. What are you trying to do? What kind of vocabulary are you trying to learn? Are you trying to learn vocabulary, meaning to learn new words? Or maybe you're trying to use them in context. Maybe you want to work on the pronunciation of the words that you usually don't use, right? You got to be very specific about what you're practicing. So when you're telling to yourself, okay, today my task is to learn to improve my vocabulary. Nice, right? And then you're like learning three words. And the end of the day, you're like, I learned three words, and there are like a billion words in English. This is very lame. It's like, I'm terrible. I'm so behind this. I will never be able to do it. Because learning vocabulary is overwhelming and it feels unattainable. But when you're saying to yourself, be specific. Learn food vocabulary, or let's learn transition words, or maybe food vocabulary, that is related to ordering in restaurants, because I always get stuck in restaurants. Okay, so this is what you're trying to achieve, you have X, which is like, it's very clear, right? What you're trying to get. And then you can actually do it. But enhance your vocabulary is huge. And you won't feel like you can check it off your list because there's always something to learn. But when you say to yourself, okay, but my goal was to learn just these five, six words. I can do it within a week, right? And to learn that means not to know it, but to actually start using it freely, okay? Then you can say, check, I did it. You feel accomplished. You feel the progress. You stay motivated. The last ground rule is make it sustainable. Okay? So even if you're really passionate at first, don't start big. Start small, but keep it small, sustain it, be persistent. The idea is to do it for the long run, right? And if you start by saying, I'm going to practice for two hours every single day, great, but not great. Because let me tell you this, it's not going to last. It will last for a few weeks, maybe a few months. But then you'll get into this mode of all or nothing, because you got used to practicing two hours every day, and now you don't have those two hours. You have a new baby or a new job, or you get bored with it now it's not interesting to you anymore. Then another day goes by and you don't do it another day, and then you fall off the wagon and it's really hard to get back on. Okay? Remember that. So instead of practicing a lot at the beginning, stop yourself. An hour is great. It's amazing to practice your English, but 30 minutes is also amazing if you manage to achieve what you set out for yourself to do. And you know what? 15 minutes is better than nothing because it's not all or nothing. So make it sustainable, be persistent, and make sure you're here to do it for the long run. Now, the last thing I recommend for you to do is now, this is not a ground rule, but let's call it friendly advice. I want you to create a fun and empowering ritual at the end of each practice. So every day at the end of your practice, I want you to have this sentence that you say to yourself. Something like, I did well, not I sucked. I did well. Improving. Tomorrow I'm going to be even better. I'm going to kick butt. Or you can do the English learning dance. I did it. I did it. I'm speaking. I'm speaking. Who's speaking? I'm speaking. Who's awesome I'm awesome. I learn English. Whatever works for you. But the most important thing is acknowledge your work, acknowledge your improvement. And to say to yourself that you are a freaking rock star. Do you remember that? Because you're speaking another language and you cannot take it for granted. Okay, that's it. So now I'm curious. I want you to scroll down and let me know in the comments below what is your why? Why do you want to become fluent in English? What would you like to achieve? What are your secret goals? And remember, there are no dreams that are too big. So let us know. And also, what motivates you? Let's add it up and let's keep each other motivated. Okay, that's it. Thank you so much for watching. If you like this video, do not forget to like it or to subscribe or to share it with your friends. Share the love. Spread the love. I love you. Thank you so much. And I will see you next week in the next video.