Hinesh Chauhan explains why he and his ex-wife decided to have two children, and why he specifically wanted a daughter first. He reflects on family dynamics and what he's observed about how siblings relate to each other.
Okay, story time. So when, when the thought of having kids came up, which I was on the fence, it wasn't really for them, wasn't against them. Like kids didn't like their parents, didn't like how they turned out to be realized it's become the parents. But my ex wife and I had a discussion and the decision was, yeah, let's have kids. And so we did. I really wanted a girl. There are no girls in my family. Really wanted a daughter first because that was the dynamic in her family. Two kids. She was the elder sibling and had a wonderful relationship with her brother or has. And I thought, hey, that would be great because the reverse doesn't work or does work or didn't work in my mind because that meant if I had a boy first, this is gonna be a two parter. If I had a boy first, that meant that down the road the chances of his friends dating his younger sister were really high. Not that I knew I was going to have a boy and a girl. I just really wanted it and that's the way it happened to be. For which I'm really grateful. But thinking how this plays out is that the younger sister will end up dating the older brother's friends, which I just don't at the time didn't think was cool. But now I realize I'm like, hey, if there's anyone that can be vetted is the best way would be through your sibling, provided you have a good relationship with your sibling, which they do, even though they deny that. And the other side of it is that the boy would be dating her friends, which would create conflict because girls are that way. And if I'm wrong on that, please comment below. But I'm not and I've witnessed this. The cattiness that exists with girls and women is it's a real thing.
